Author Archives: Emma Goodson

About Emma Goodson

Studying public relations and political science at Penn State University. For the glory. Born June 11, 1994 in Abington, PA.

The One With Joey’s Porsche

In today’s society, many people are more attracted to a person’s material belongings rather than their personality.

"You should see the treatment I get when I'm with that car!" - Joey

“You should see the treatment I get when I’m with that car!” – Joey

Joey finds keys to a Porsche on the bar of the coffee shop. He asks if anyone lost their keys but no one answers. He decides to go find the car and leave the owner a note. When he finds the car, a man walks by and compliments him. Joey says it’s not his but then a woman says the same thing and Joey can’t help but play along. Back up at the apartment, Joey raves about the life of a Porsche owner. People want to talk to him, they’re friendly, and they even give him advice! He assumes that if he just keeps standing next to it people will realize it’s not his so he asks Monica for a bucket and cloth to wash it. As he’s buffing the hood, the owner comes over and asks for the keys. Joey says that he’ll save the parking spot but the owner lives upstate so he’s SOL. The next day Joey walks into the apartment donning Porsche attire (pictured above) so that everyone will still think he owns a Porsche (which he can’t even pronounce correctly, porscha). He’s standing on the sidewalk twirling his keys… but there’s no Porsche in sight which is ruining his facade. He then has the brilliant idea to compile a bunch of boxes under a tarp to look like a Porsche. The plan is going well and two women are flirting with him… until a guy dives for a football and lands in the boxes. Whoops, sorry Joe.

I find that it’s common for men and women alike to think that owning expensive or nice things makes them seem more attractive. Not that all of us like to flaunt big name labels or flashy cars like Joey, but being able to afford nice things is something that we seem to take pride in. Personally, I can afford nice things but I don’t like to show them off. However, I feel like I am more attracted to people who seem to have nice things as well. But is that necessarily bad? In a way, that attraction can be explained as an appeal towards people who are like me. Even with this rationalization, I’m still being attracted to someone for their appearance and material belongings instead of their personality. I think that this tends to be a common occurrence among people because it’s harder to know someone’s personality. It takes time and effort. It’s easier for us to like someone for the nice shirt and shoes they’re wearing or the expensive cologne or perfume they sport. I’m not saying personality isn’t a factor of attraction. Just because you’re attracted to someone physically doesn’t mean you’ll feel the same way about their personality. I suppose the question is whether we want people to initially be attracted to us by our appearance or our personality. I’d like to say that I’d prefer the latter but I know that’s not how I am attracted to people at first. Like Joey and the Porsche, we use our appearance and belongings to lure people in so that they will get to know our personality and hopefully like us even more. Attraction is a funny thing… sometimes it’s there, other times not, but always when you’re the owner of a Porsche.

 

The One in Barbados

Some people live for competition and some of those people can be really annoying.

"You know how competitive you are. While I say it's cute, others disagree. And I'm lying." - Chandler to Monica

“You know how competitive you are. While I say it’s cute, others disagree. And I’m lying.” – Chandler to Monica

While on a trip in Barbados, the gang is stuck inside because of the inclement weather. Mike, Phoebe’s boyfriend, suggests that they use the hotel’s game room. Monica jumps at the chance to play ping pong. Chandler and Phoebs are a little skeptical because they know how Monica can get… the other night she punched them both when she lost. She convinces them that it will be fun but Phoebe will only play if they don’t keep score. To which Monica refutes, “So we’re just four losers? Super!” After that comment, Phoebe and Chandler are out but Mike doesn’t seem to be concerned and requests a match. Chandler and Phoebe warns him but he nudges it off. Turns out he’s just being cocky because he’s “awesome” at ping pong. He then wages a bet with Monica: ten bucks a game. During the game there is a lot of trash talk going on.. both from the players and the sidelines (Phoebe’s a good cheerleader). After two games and tie for wins, a third game is waged. The game is tied 41-41 and Phoebe and Chandler are beyond done. They try to convince them to stop but Monica “cannot just walk away” after having played for four hours. Mike serves the ball and Monica hurts her wrist meaning she forfeits. She can’t believe she lost and seeing her disbelief Chandler steps in to take her place because he realizes it is important to her. In a sudden death round, Chandler wins it for Monica! She promptly calls Mike a loser and that’s the end of that (thank god).

Competition is always present. People love to watch competitions and participate in them as well. Some people are more like Phoebe and Chandler and like to sit on the sidelines while others are all for getting down and dirty to beat an opponent. Our culture has put competition in the spotlight and there are so many opportunities for people to compete both publicly and privately. This month is a prime example. It’s March Madness y’all! People across the country take part in not just watching the basketball competition but participating as well by creating brackets with friends and making bets on the winner. I like to think of myself as uncompetitive; I’ll watch but I won’t play along. However, this year I decided to make an NCAA bracket with some friends from home. I have become obsessed with the competition. I watch all the games, get upset when my picked teams lose, and constantly check the group standings. What I learned, as well as what Chandler learned, is that competition can be fun! We don’t all have to be sore winners and losers like Mike and Monica but being competitive with others is enjoyable. It gives you something to be passionate about and you feel good about yourself if you succeed. I used to think that most competition was bad but over time I have come to realize that it motivates you to try harder and be the best you can be. Sure some competitions can go a little too far, like a four hour ping pong game, but that just goes to show that everyone loves a good competition and there’s no competing with that!

 

The One Where Phoebe Runs

In today’s world, almost anything out of the ordinary embarrasses us. Why do we care so much?

"She looks like a cross between kermit the frog and the six million dollar man." -Rachel

“She looks like a cross between kermit the frog and the six million dollar man.” -Rachel

Rachel invites Phoebe to go running in the park with her as a “roommate bonding” activity. They get to the park and Phoebe gives Rachel a head start but when Phoebe passes by flailing her arms and legs spread far apart, Rachel can’t help but pretend she has no idea who Phoebe is. Rachel tells Ross and Monica about the strange running and asks their advice on how to get out of running with Phoebe again. Monica suggests just telling the truth and Rachel agrees until Phoebe walks in. Rachel instantly lies saying that Monica tripped her and now she won’t be able to run. Phoebe is really bummed and blames Monica who just goes along with the lie. The next day Rachel sneaks out for her run and is surprised by Phoebe who caught her at the park. She accuses Rachel of lying so she could run by herself. Rachel tries to make up an excuse but Phoebe isn’t buying it and ‘runs’ away. When Phoebe comes home Rachel apologizes for lying. Phoebe asks for the truth and Rachel admits that the way Phoebe runs embarrasses her and people stare. Phoebe asks why she cares about the people and Rachel says “because they’re people!” Phoebe doesn’t understand why she cares so much when she’ll never see them again. Phoebe explains to Rachel that she runs the way she did when she was a kid because it’s the only way to make it fun. The next time Rachel goes on a run she tries running like Phoebe and realizes that it really is fun and freeing!

Embarrassment seems to be a very common feeling among people today. Often times, we aren’t only embarrassed of ourselves but we’re embarrassed by our friends and family. Whenever my friends start creating a ruckus, I can’t help but look over my shoulder and see if anyone is watching. I suppose I’m afraid that people will judge me for being friends with such “obnoxious” or “annoying” people if that’s how they see it. But why do I, and Rachel, care so much about what strangers think? I think it comes from our self-conscious culture. We all want to fit a description and we’re conscious of our actions and appearance in public. We don’t want anyone to see behind the mask in fear of rejection. But why hide our differences? We should embrace them. Like Phoebe, we’ll find a new sense of freedom if we are true to ourselves. What matters is that we accept ourselves, not the acceptance from others. I ask you to try running like Phoebe, or do whatever you’re embarrassed to do, and see what it feels like… you might be surprised.

The One With the Male Nanny

In the past, it seemed that some jobs were meant only for women and others only for men but nowadays the gender mold is breaking. Some people are all for the movement while for others, like Ross, not so much.

"I'm sorry I'm the only one who isn't in love with Gary Poppins out there." -Ross

“I’m sorry I’m the only one who isn’t in love with Gary Poppins out there.” -Ross

Rachel and Ross are interviewing nannies to watch Emma so that Rachel can go back to work. After filtering through numerous interviewees who just aren’t up to par, the two meet an amazing candidate named Sandy whom Rachel falls in love with right off the bat. Ross on the other hand is quite skeptical since the candidate happens to be a man. Rachel is so into him and he shows great qualities but Ross can’t let go of the fact that he’s a male nanny. He even blurts out the question if Sandy is gay. While he is actually engaged to a woman, Sandy realizes it may be a little unorthodox for some people for a man to be their nanny but he loves his job. Rachel wants to hire him but Ross thinks it’s just weird. He gives in anyway and lets Rachel hire Sandy. Later Ross is talking to Monica about Sandy when Joey walks in and he agrees that a man being a nanny is weird. However, the next day Ross comes home to see Joey and Sandy playing with puppets together and cannot believe his eyes. He storms out of the room and tells Rachel that he can’t go through with this. Rachel decides that they can fire him but Ross has to be the one to do it. When Ross goes to fire him, Sandy has no hard feelings but he wants to know what the problem was. Ross tells him he’s not comfortable with Sandy’s sensitivity and Sandy asks why that is. Ross begins to talk about how he always felt like his dad thought he was too sensitive and he begins to cry. Sandy comforts him and well you guessed it he’s no longer fired.

Gender stereotypes have been around for a while. We’ve all been told that girls can’t be as athletic and strong as boys or that boys can’t be as sensitive and graceful as women. Yet there are women body builders and wrestlers and male ballerinas and ice-skaters if we’re taking those stereotypes to the extreme. The deal is that just because you’re born with a certain appearance doesn’t mean you can’t act how you want or be who you want to be. If you’re a woman and you want to be CEO of a company you can be and if you’re a man and you want to be a stay at home father you can be! You can do whatever you want as long as it makes you happy. You don’t have to fall under the stereotypical male and female roles. Recently more men and women have been breaking the mold and I think it’s great! Why shouldn’t men and women be able to have the same jobs without it being regarded as weird like it was for Sandy to be a male nanny? People can do whatever they want and be whatever they want. You shouldn’t stay away from a job or hobby you love just because some people may think it’s unorthodox or inappropriate. If it makes you happy, I say screw them and do it! You can’t care about what other people think or you’ll be miserable. Even Joey knows that!

The One Where Heckles Dies

When it comes to what we believe in some people can be very open-minded but others can be very close-minded and stubborn. Take Phoebe and Ross for example..

"Uh oh, it's scary scientist man!" -Phoebe

“Uh oh, it’s scary scientist man!” -Phoebe

The annoying downstairs neighbor Mr. Heckles dies and Phoebe can still sense his presence in the apartment so she helps him by yelling “go into the light Mr Heckles!” Everyone else just chuckles and Phoebe lets them scoff at her. She acknowledges that there are many things she doesn’t believe in either but that doesn’t mean they aren’t true like evolution. Of course, this gets Ross’s boxers (briefs?) in a twist. He can’t believe that Phoebe thinks evolution is just a “nice story.” Ross just cannot let it go and tries to persuade Phoebe into believing it exists. Phoebe asks if they can just agree to disagree but Ross says that he can’t just stand by while she believes something that is wrong. Phoebe tells him he needs to put himself “under the microscope” and see why he cares so much about making everyone agree with him. Later on at Monica’s, Ross shows up with a briefcase full of fossils to prove Phoebe wrong. She cuts him off to say that she doesn’t deny evolution she just sees it as one of many possibilities. Ross rebuts that it’s the only possibility. She asks him to be more open-minded and to consider the fact that there is a “teeny-tiny possibility” he could be wrong about this. He begrudgingly agrees and Phoebe can’t believe he caved! She asks him how he will be able to face himself for just giving up on his beliefs so easily. Ross is speechless.

What our good friend Ross learned is that just because someone believes something different than you do, it doesn’t mean that they are wrong and it doesn’t mean that you are wrong either. For every phenomenon there is an infinity of possible explanations and you have the right to believe in whichever you choose. Along with our ability to believe what we want comes a responsibility to respect that other people have that same power and their beliefs have just as much value as yours. I know it can be frustrating when someone doesn’t agree with you or even when they don’t allow you to express your beliefs but we must still be respectful of one another. Ross had a hard time respecting Phoebe’s opinion of evolution but she understood that he believed very strongly in it’s existence and didn’t try to persuade him otherwise. Differing beliefs can lead to many conflicts among friends and family members and even strangers, but with open-minds we can all express our values in a positive way without demeaning someone else’s.

 

The One With the Cuffs

We all like to poke fun but when does a joke go too far?

"This was just in case you pulled a monica! Honey come on have a sense of humor. You were never able to laugh at yourself." - Judy

“This was just in case you pulled a monica! Honey come on have a sense of humor. You were never able to laugh at yourself.” – Judy

Monica begrudgingly decides to cater a party for her mom because she needs the money. As Monica is preparing the food at her mothers house she lets her curiosity get the best of her and asks her mother why she hired her. To her surprise, she hired her because she had heard rave reviews from friends. Monica can’t believe her mom actually thinks she does something well. Phoebe notices that one of Monica’s fake nails is missing and Monica starts to panic as she realizes it’s in one of the quiche. She has to tell her mother but hopes she doesn’t freak out. Her mom does quite the opposite. She had actually made a bet with Jack that Monica would mess up and “pull a Monica.” Judy tries to tell Monica that she does have faith in her but Monica doesn’t want to hear any of it. She blames herself for thinking her mom would change. Phoebe says so what you pulled a Monica? Just change the meaning of it! Monica decides to go back downstairs and serve something of her own and not her mom’s back-up lasagnas. Everyone eats Monica’s casserole instead of the pasta and even her mother admits that she liked it. She admits that she was very impressed and Monica is smitten.

We all like to nit pick and joke about the little things our friends and family do. Some of us can take the joke and others can’t. Sometimes the joke is funny at first but after a while it starts to sink in causing self-esteem issues. For Monica, the phrase “pulling a Monica” did just that because it meant that she had done something wrong as always. After a while, this can really start to hurt someone’s feelings. People making fun of your misfortune isn’t comical at all. Finally, Monica stood up for herself and did something far from wrong. She impressed her mother and she gained pride in herself. I, like Monica, have dealt with being picked on in the past. One of my closest friends used to joke about my height (up until tenth grade I was a munchkin). At first, the nickname “butt munch” was funny. It sounded funny and so I laughed. I knew I was short, but after a while the name started to upset me. It made me feel insecure about my height. I reached breaking point one day when the joke went too far. I was walking down the hallway behind the tallest kid in our grade when my friend pushed me into him and sure enough I ate ass. She couldn’t stop laughing and I was beyond mortified and angry. I told her I had had enough with her calling me a butt munch and that it really hurt my feelings. She did not see that coming but since that day she hasn’t muttered the nickname once. Jokes can be fun and we all should laugh at ourselves sometimes, but when we start to take it personally is where the line needs to be drawn. Keep that in mind the next time you tell your friend they “pulled a (insert name here).”

 

The One Where Rosita Dies

Rosita is Joey’s lazy boy chair who is maliciously killed by Rachel.. and then Chandler, but we’re not going to focus on her demise. Instead we’ll be looking at favoritism.

"I suppose we may have favored you unconsciously. You were a medical Marvel!"  - Jack Gellar

“I suppose we may have favored you unconsciously. You were a medical marvel!”
– Jack Gellar"We love you just as much as Ross." - Jack Gellar

 

 

“We love you just as much as Ross.” – Jack Gellar

Ross and Monica’s parents decide to sell their house without telling the two of them.. well actually they told Chandler who forgot. The siblings are so surprised and upset. While having breakfast the two get into talking about how Ross’s room was kept like a shrine after he moved out while Monica’s was turned into a gym right away. this leads to a conversation about favoritism from their parents. Ross is skeptical but Monica is sure. The two go to the house to collect their things from their childhood. Monica is so excited to see everything. Ross has a ton of boxes. While Monica’s inside looking at her old easy bake ovens, their dad realizes that he used her boxed to block the spring floods from the Porsche. Ross tries to explain that Monica won’t care what happened but it’ll make her think that they definitely favor Ross. “I suppose we may have favored you unconsciously. You were a medical Marvel!” Ross doesn’t want to see his sister upset so he decides to put some of his things that will seem like hers into empty boxes, including Ross’s makeup kit oh I’m sorry clown kit. When Monica comes back outside she shows her “her” boxes. As she takes things out Ross and her dad pretend that she loved everything in the box. Then she starts to realize that none of the stuff is hers. Her father explains everything and she asks why only her boxes were ruined. “And if you say the words ‘medical marvel’ i am going to easy bake your head.” she can’t believe that all her stuff was ruined to save stupid tires while all of Ross’s are fine. her dad tells her that she loves her just as much as Ross and he knows he’ll probably never be able to make it up to her but he starts by giving her the Porsche! she is so excited and now of course Ross is the one who feels gypped.

If you have siblings, it’s pretty common to feel the affects of parental favoritism whether it’s really there or you just perceive it to be. Being an only child, I don’t know how this feels when it’s your parents but everyone can experience favoritism. We’ve all heard and used the terms “teacher’s pet” and “best friend.” Those are forms of favoritism. Grandparents can do it too. Honestly everyone can show favoritism. We all have things that we like more than others and that’s okay but when those things are people we need to be careful not to hurt their feelings. We’ve all experienced favoritism and we’ve all probably done it to other people. If you have a best friend, then you’re guilty. How do you think your other close friend feels when he/she hears you saying that you like another friend more? Even though I don’t experience parental favoritism, my parents might experience child favoritism (I might’ve made that up). I know that sometimes either one of my parents can feels less loved than the other. I hate that it happens, but it’s hard to stop it. I’ve also been a victim. I danced at the same school with the same girls in my classes for ten years and even though I was just as good as the others, the teachers favored them over me because they were also a part of the school’s competition team. I didn’t think it was fair to have the teachers give them bigger roles in our recital pieces but no one but me realized it was happening. We all know favoritism exists but I don’t think there’s any way to stop it. For the most part, it’s only perceived by the people who are either the favorite or the reject, but even so it’s there. The best thing to do is be fair and make sure everyone knows how much you value them. Monica’s dad showed her how much he loves her by giving her his prized possession. But not all of us have Porsches to give away!

The One With Phoebe’s Birthday Dinner

We all have wants and desires that we juggle with our (sometimes unwanted) responsibilities. But when we add in promises made to friends or family, how do we set our priorities straight?

"Did my little outburst blunt the hideousness that is this evening?" -Phoebe

“Did my little outburst blunt the hideousness that is this evening?” -Phoebe

Phoebe invites everyone to dinner for her birthday and is so excited when everyone is able to attend. However, things don’t end up the way she hopes. Chandler returns from a business trip and Monica discovers he smoked cigarettes while he was away. The two end up arguing over the situation. Rachel and Ross are nervous about leaving their daughter Emma with a sitter, Ross’s mom, for the first time. This leaves Phoebe and Joey waiting at the restaurant and their patience is dropping every minute that passes by. After an hour goes by and no sign of the other four, Phoebe and Joey are asked to relocate to a smaller table. Ross and Rachel finally show up just as Phoebe and Joey finished ordering… now Joey has to wait even longer for his food. Then as soon as those two order in come Monica and Chandler. Another blow to Joey’s hungry stomach so he orders for them. As birthday toasts are being made, Rachel is too worried about Emma and Monica and Chandler continue to fight. Finally Phoebe has had enough and she has a little outburst. She explains that all she wanted to do was have a nice dinner for her birthday and she understands that they have a lot going on but they didn’t even have to decency to call her. They all apologize but then Phoebe gets a call from her boyfriend and decides to leave to meet up with him. The couples depart as well leaving Joey with an abundance of food. But we all know Joey, he eats every single dish.

Sure life can be unpredictable and we often have to move our schedules around, but when we have a planned event with other people our schedule isn’t as flexible. In Monica, Chandler, Rachel, and Ross’s situation, they all made plans with Phoebe and let their own problems get in the way. Like I said, life is unpredictable and things happen, but we have to make sure we account for others when we change our schedule. It’s a common courtesy to cancel on someone if you can no longer make it. Our friends forgot to take into account how Phoebe would feel about them being late to her dinner. It didn’t make her too happy, trust me, I’ve been there. A friend of mine made plans to see me my first night of break. When it came time for us to get together, he didn’t communicate with me at all. I had to reach out to him only to find out that he changed his plans and wouldn’t be able to see me. I was upset that he didn’t even think to let me know. People often get so wrapped up in what is currently happening and forget about what was supposed to be happening and who it was supposed to be happening with. We all need to remember, from time to time, to think about how our actions and decisions affect the people around us.  No one likes to be ditched or stood up. Not even Joey… unless he has food to comfort him.

The One With The Rumor

There are some things in life that we just can’t let go of like your mother’s vintage wedding dress or your first pair of shoes. Then there are the things like the time your best friend lied to you or the boy/girl of your dreams broke up with you. Some people are able to forgive (but not always) and forget; they move on with their lives. Others like to hold grudges and who knows how long those can last.

"Look at her next to those yams. My two greatest enemies, Ross. Rachel Greene and complex carbohydrates.

“Look at her next to those yams. My two greatest enemies, Ross. Rachel Greene and complex carbohydrates.” -Will

Monica invites an old friend from high school Will, who is on business in the city, over for Thanksgiving dinner. When she informs the rest of the group, Rachel has a hard time putting a face to the name. Will arrives at Monica’s and she tells him that Rachel and Ross will be joining them as well. Unlike Rachel, right away Will remembers who she is and it’s not the fondest of memories. Apparently Rachel ruined his high school years. He reassures Monica that all that is in the past and he’s moved on but once Rachel shows up he tenses up and starts mouthing the words ‘I hate you’ across the room at her. As they sit down for their meal, Will confronts Rachel about their troubled past but she has no recollection. The gang then discovers that back then Ross and Will had a secret “I hate Rachel Greene” club. It is unearthed that the two guys started the rumor about Rachel being half male and half female. Will thinks it’s hilarious that she never knew about it until now but Ross is ashamed of himself. Then Monica spills that Rachel started a rumor about Ross and the 50 year old librarian (that one turned out to actually be true- oh Ross). Ross is astonished. Monica is able to convince Rachel and Ross to move on and forgive each other. They agree and the trouble-maker Will is silenced.

Why do people hold grudges? We can forgive each other for the small things- like forgetting to respond to a text or leaving the toilet seat up, but when it comes to larger things we’re as stubborn as an ox. The larger-ticket items tend to include things that hurt our feelings. Personally, I tend to forgive in the moment but I don’t forget. I think that we all like to pretend we don’t care that our friend canceled on us or that someone said something nasty behind our backs but the truth is we do care. We care a lot actually. Will was obese back in high school and even though now he’s skinny and successful he can’t let go of the name-calling from Miss Rachel Greene. Why? Because he cared back then. It was a part of him that he’ll never forget. Our day-to-day interactions and actions become a part of who we are and can never be changed. That’s the tricky thing about the past. What’s done is done and I think that’s what scares us most. We cannot possibly forget everything that once was but we can decide not to care and just let go.

The One With Ross’s Sandwich

Thanksgiving leftovers = delicious. Ross thinks so too.

  

“That sandwich was the only good thing going on in my life!”

The one thing Ross looks forward to after thanksgiving is his thanksgiving leftovers sandwich. Monica makes it just for him. He was so excited to have it for lunch at work but when he looks in the fridge it’s gone!! Ross couldn’t believe his eyes and he was beyond upset. He storms into the coffee house and tells everyone the terrible news. “Well what did the police say?” asks Chandler sarcastically. Monica offers to make him another but Ross is still upset. He decides to leave a nasty note for the person who dared to eat his sandwich. Phoebe writes him a note that would scare anyone. The next day at work Ross’s boss asks him about his recent well craziness and wants him to see a psychiatrist. Ross explains that it was all because of a sandwich and his boss recalls that he ate that sandwich. Ross questions whether he saw the note on the sandwich saying it was his and his boss had indeed seen it. He then tells Ross he might find the rest of it in his trash can. This did not go over very well with Ross at all and he has a little outburst (by which I mean his yells could be heard throughout the city). His boss sends him to the psychiatrist and Ross is given a pill for his anger and has to take a leave of absence. After taking the pill, Ross doesn’t even care about his sandwich anymore.

Well obviously our friend Ross has a little bit of an anger issue, but instead of focusing on Ross’s irrationality I would like to focus on the actions of his boss. Why are people compelled to take something that belongs to someone else? I’m not talking major theft but the little things we do maybe everyday. We snag that last french fry off our friends plate without them seeing, we borrow our friends clothes without asking, or we take a movie from a friend and forget to return it. These little things can sometimes get the people we’re taking from more worked up than we  would expect. It was just a sandwich that Ross’s boss took. One sandwich. Ross could have gone and gotten another sandwich anywhere. But this wasn’t an ordinary sandwich; it meant something to him. His boss didn’t realize this and his mistake of eating Ross’s sandwich turns into a large problem than he thought it would. We can’t just assume that the person we are taking from won’t care at all because that thing you took might have meant more to them than you will understand. Bottom line: if you want something that’s not yours either get your own or ask the person to share.