The greatest experience that I had in my lifetime was the time I fully realized that I needed to mature. When I was younger as a teenager then I would often fight with my parents and this impacted my grades which were failing. There was no reason for me to fight with my parents because all they were trying to do is love me and help teach me life lessons to get through life. I didn’t want to listen to them as since we were fighting all the time this made me depressed to not do my homework on time or produce any quality work. One day I realized that cycle of path of destructive behavior I was creating was never going to help me succeed as well as it would destroy my relationships with the people I loved. I sat down and reflected on myself and who I wanted to be and this changed my behaviors as I realized I wanted to be a better person for myself and the people that I love. Upon this realization then I began to change my attitude and I noticed a change in my life as I began to work harder. This changed reflected positively in all aspects of my life as I graduated high school with a 4.03 GPA and I developed a better work effective. I also repair the relationships I had damaged along the way and this bond made me want to work even harder. According to an analysis by Northouse (2016), “within the inner theater, certain relationship themes develop over time- rooted in our deepest wishes, needs, goals, which contribute to our unique personality style.” It took a great exploration in my inner theare that I didn’t like what I saw in myself and that I needed a change. Later in life, I have noticed that every once in awhile I will revert back to certain tendencies like getting angry easy. But, then I have to stop and pause and remind myself that I am better then that. I have noticed better results when I take a more rational and receptive approach to situations or conflicts now. It took experiences and life lessons to realize that I can be a better person. Also, after studying leadership courses then I have also gained a better sense of myself which has helped me form better bonds with people and work better. This will in turn help create me into a great leader.
Reference:
Northouse, Peter. (2016). Leadership: Theory and Practice. Los Angeles: Sage Publications.
tfs5137 says
#1 BLOG Comment Revised 5-24-18
Hello Lance,
Your blog was in depth and gave me something to take away from ‘Knowing Yourself’. I want to start off with this dynamic approach to reality in that we should acknowledge that “people are complex, unique, and paradoxical beings with rich and myriad motivational drivers and decision-making and interaction patterns” (Northouse, 2016, p. 296). You have discussed your interaction and complexities with others. Your post has opened my eyes to the way my son now behaves and I can relate to this. I hope that he come to some realization sooner than later, just as you did.
While growing up you had a personality that was age appropriate as a teenager. It is only time and wisdom that brings maturity. Your self-destructing behavior lead to a highly wanting essential element of intelligence. This experience enabled you to sense through your emotional intelligence and work towards making things right and realigning your end goals. Your saw the path of pain and you came to realize that you were hurting your love ones. “Intelligence is concerned with our ability to learn information and apply it to life tasks, emotional intelligence is concerned with our ability to understand emotions and apply this understanding to life’s tasks” (Northouse, 2016, p. 28). Now you can apply these learnt abilities to the great leader role you hope to aspire to. However, you should keep in mind “at its heart, leadership is about human behavior-what we do, how we do it, and why we do it” (Northouse, 2016, p. 295). So, apply your experience and use your receptive approach towards your goals.
I have a question now that you have acquired a new perspective to life and the way you want to live. Do you thing that this brought out a whole new set of hidden personality trait? Do you think that this could help you resist moving one step back? If your answer is affirmative then hopefully these traits will be transparent and ones you will cherish after looking back and trying to understand why you acted in such ways. If there are newly found personality traits then, it will work wonders towards your leadership goals and it will work now more than when you were a teenager. You reflected and cited Northouse analysis of the inner theatre developmental relations and connection overtime (p. 301). I truly believe that this inner theatre has a connection to our personality and it’s deep rooted as Northouse informed in the Psychodynamic approach. These deep-rooted elements from our inner theatre creates our uniqueness and thus, we possess our own unique personality.
Your realization path has made you into a renewed person. I can acknowledge that learning about leadership has brought on new hopes and realization of the place I want to be. Upon learning about leadership, the something I can take away today is to learn how to create better bond with people because leadership is about leading people, and how we do it.
Reference
Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: Theory and Practice. Los Angeles: Sage Publications.
Lance Weyeneth says
Thank you for commenting on my blog. Your reply made me think even deeper about the situation I was going through and other traits that I had developed as a result that would be a great quality to have in leader. For example, I didn’t even think about having intelligence in my real life scenario, but after you stated this then I realized that I did in fact have to have some intelligence on how to formulate a better plan to improve myself. To add to my situation, what I was about to do was I created personal goals for myself to achieve and once I met those goals then I rewarded myself. I alone set up my own goals and reward system and because I was meeting them then I felt better about myself and worked harder and produced better quality work. I believe that exhibit emotional intelligence as well as regular intelligence. According to Norhouse (2016), “emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive and express emotions, to use emotions to facilitate thinking, to understand, and reason with emotion.” I had the emotional intelligence to understand that I was hurting myself and the people around me with my self destructive behavior and when I realized I needed to change then I created a plan to take action. This is a trait that I use a lot now as I realize that there are times I get a hot head and I have to access the situation at head and when I am able to do this then I am better able to handle the situation. My managers noticed the progressive change I had made compared to my first year of being hired as I would blow up on people very easily which in turn would negatively impact those relationships and my performance review. People were less likely to help or talk to me which made me not work as hard. Once, I realized what I was doing then I decided to change myself and this then created a better environment to work in. Again, thank you for make me think deeper about my blog and relate even more course concepts to the blog. This helped me better understand the lessons as I was able to take away more and critically think even deeper about what I am learning.
Reference:
Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: Theory and Practice. Los Angeles: Sage Publications.
tfs5137 says
Hello Lance,
Your blog was in depth and gave me some take away from ‘Knowing Yourself.’ Your post has opened my eyes to the way my son now behaves and I can relate to this. I hope that he come to some realization sooner than later, just as you did. While growing up you had a personality that was age appropriate as a teenager. It is only time and wisdom that brings on maturity. Your self-destructing behavior lead to a highly wanting essential element of intelligence. This experience enabled you to sense through your emotional intelligence and work towards making things right and realigning your end goals. Your saw the path of pain and you came to realize that you were hurting your love ones. “Intelligence is concerned with our ability to learn information and apply it to life tasks, emotional intelligence is concerned with our ability to understand emotions and apply this understanding to life’s tasks: (Northouse, 2016, p. 28). Now perhaps you have acquired a new perspective to life and the way you want to live and this brings up a whole new set of personality trait. Traits you now cherish after looking back and trying to understand why you acted in such ways. A new personality you probably now appreciate more than when you were a teenager. Your realization path has made you into a renewed person. I can acknowledge that learning about leadership has brought on new hopes and realization of the place I want to be. I can take away something with me today and that is learning about leadership one of the elements I would gain is learning how to create better bond with people.
Reference
Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: Theory and Practice. Los Angeles: Sage Publications.