This example goes way back. When I was a summer camp counselor at a religious sleepaway camp in 2008, we had a week of pretty intense teambuilding and training before the kids started arriving for the summer. This teambuilding was very important, as counselors would have countless situations where they would need to support and cover for each other throughout the summer, as each was going to be responsible for dealing with 6-10 campers at a time. The situations where counselors would have to collaborate, or would have to count on other counselors to help with their campers, were pretty endless (imagine if you have to escort one to the nurse, etc.).
There was one female counselor who arrived to the training, then left (I don’t remember why) about 2 days in, never to return. We found out soon enough that a male counselor had decided to do this for the summer with us simply because he was romantically interested in that female counselor; he was pretty clearly completely unqualified, and apparently uninterested, in the job. Although he did decide to stay through the summer (ostensibly because he was from NYC and had already made the move for the summer to rural PA, and needed the income), we questioned his reliability immediately once his original motivations were revealed. He never really quite seemed on the same page as the rest of us, and we would collaborate or choose to rely on other counselors instead of him.
Alejandro – interesting read! I hope that he didn’t spoil your camp memories too much. I also find it interesting that you sensed at a young age that there was a shift in this person’s behavior towards campers and the staff once the young woman left. Discernment is a gift.