According to (Schneider et al, 2012) there are four attachments that adults can have which are secure, preoccupied,fearful, and dismissing. At some point each one of us has participated in one if not all of the above. As adults we are luck enough to find someone to form an attachment whether it be a romantic attachment or a friendly attachment. Even though relationships are tough it is important to form any form of attachment. It is important to form some kind of connection because I have seen people grow old alone. It is the saddest thing I have witnessed. In my field of work I have seen a lot of elderly live out there last days alone with out a friend or loved ones by their sides.
Unfortunately not everyone is meant to get married and have children in that case forming a social group is important to have something to hold on to. As adults get older they become set on there ways and become stubborn and some angry. But the great thing of getting older is that you also become wiser and truly find what is important to you and by that you can choose individuals who share your philosophy. I have been lucky enough to this point in finding several true friends we call ourselves the wolf pack. A little immature but that how we all are we are responsible when we need to be and we become big kids when were together. All of us are between the ages of 23-26 and are going through similar situations, were finishing school we’re buying homes and progressing.
Having this bond is amazing a group of men going through similar life changing events is great because if one needs advise we’re there to assist. Either by letting them know what worked for us or just by listening. Especially when it come to talking about work. I know a lot of guys say men don’t talk well actually boys don’t talk men converse. We all live busy lives but we try to meet face to face at least once a month over a BBQ or dinner or just a drink and catch up. Forming any kind of bond is key to become a better person and have someone there if the need arises.
Schneider, F. W., Gruman, J. A., & Coutts, L. M. (Eds.). (2012). Applied Social Psychology (Second ed., pp. 351-391). Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.