Inner Beauty
More and more people are becoming interested in how to look better. Everybody pursues “beauty”. There has never been a time like this when the appearance is valued the most. In my country, nice appearance is the important valuable thing. They are always caring about how they look like to others. Even when they have a job interview, employer concerns their appearance, and have a priority once candidates are competitive.Women like to spend lots of time on taking care of the way they look and improving their appearance. Nowadays we are using the social medias like Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat. I can post on there to share whatever we want; our photos, daily lives, and so many things easily. I found out myself I was getting to pay attention too much how I look like to others and what they think of me. I focused on “how I look” rather than “Who I am”. I questioned myself what made up inside of me genuinely. Do I have beautiful body shape? What clothes or cosmetics I have? Which type of car I have?” I have come to realize it was a just part of feature that made person like a book cover.
Everyone has natural beauty basically what they have. Some people may say that without appearance, no one could have confidence. Of course, I can’t deny the fact that good looks or nice car are often helpful in receiving more attention and someone’s kindness. There is nothing wrong with the desire to make me wonderful or feel better about myself. However, if I am not satisfied with myself, others would not satisfy me either. That is a temporarily feature. I found out the most important thing about confidence is self-contentment, not outer-beauty for me. No matter how beautiful I am, without our satisfaction, the beauty is useless if I want to have a continuous confidence physically, emotionally and psychologically even when I get older.
A few years ago, I was suffering from depression while studying in America. I was having hard time by myself. I couldn’t love myself. Once I was feeling everything was negative, I started to hate myself. This was how I looked so ugly. I felt I couldn’t deserve to be loved even I had a wonderful and loved family, friends, school, nice clothes, house, part time jobs, and young age in my life. I couldn’t satisfy what I have with me. Now I am using less time on my social media since I didn’t want to share with people about how I looked, not truly who I am. I did not want to compare myself to others. I have come to realize my emptiness was not from the outside me. It was from inside of me. The fancy make-up, clothes, and accessories are just feature, but they can’t define my identity.
“If you change something’s packaging, do its contents change?” The real content is still the same. However, many people are busy trying to change their package material. I saw sometimes we forget the most important thing is oneself in their lives. Everyone must be respected no matter how they look or what they are doing for job. It is important to realize for me that innate and natural beauty are attractive, and I believe how to build my minds and self-confidence with other less visual initiatives and approaches. I keep in mind this famous quote “Don’t judge the book by its cover.”