“You know what? Bitches get stuff done.”

I am a feminist to some extent; I would just describe myself as a very bad one. I believe that women should have the same job opportunities as men, we should be able to represent ourselves, and be treated with the same respect as men, but I also feel that we were created to do certain jobs ourselves. I believe that women should cook, clean and do chores in the house, and men should grill and do work outside of the house. Different types of people are just better at different things.

 

But I do not think that is the real issue. Before this class I did not have a clear understanding of what it meant to be a feminist because the only people I ever saw portray themselves in that way and advertise their viewpoints were braless, hairy legged women. Please note that I do not have any room to judge, as I am currently braless and unshaven. But after I went through all of the types of feminism and what they mean – Marxist, Anarchist, Radical and Black Feminism… – I decided that I didn’t really fit any of these categories. So I would like to invent my own category, a mild feminist. One who does not just believe in the equality of women versus men, but all humans together. As Madonna once said, “I am not a feminist, I am a humanist.” I honestly couldn’t agree with it more. Feminism has a negative connotation, and honestly, I feel like it always will. I think that people would be more effective if they start fighting for the equality of all people, not just women.

 

1st and 2nd feminists all had a specific goal that they pretty much achieved in the end, but modern day feminists (3rd wave), are very discombobulated and are not fighting for a common goal. Therefore, I feel that it is difficult to identify with a certain group/type of feminism. We focus more on the types, and fighting with other women than actually standing up for our rights and making a difference. Think about it, women are constantly getting in tiffs and having issues between each other. What matters most in this situation?

 

I also think that there will always be a level of discrimination between men and women. I think the goal of feminism should not be to end it, but to be able to control in a way that these acts of discrimination should stand out from the rest, and it would be hard to look away.

Ask Me On A Date PLEASE

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For my journalism class, I wrote an article about this same topic…I liked my introduction so I’m going to reuse it lol…

…Dinner dates turn into sharing a shot of vodka.  Walking your date to the door turns into the “walk-of-shame” the next morning.  Significant others turn into strictly “fuck buddies.”

Hooking up and dating in college culture has increased greatly in the past ten years for men and women.  In today’s world, it is the norm to meet someone at a party and have sexual relations after meeting them first time.

A lot of this I think is from alcohol, as “liquid courage” drives us to do things we normally wouldn’t, but I think the problem stems deeper than that.  College hookup culture, and the lack of dating is harmful to both men and women.  Although both parties are affected, I am going to focus on the female issues regarding “hooking up.”

After the first few hookups in your college career, it seems that it becomes the norm.  We are more inclined to let people walk all over us, and for those who are caught up in the culture, it is hard for us to put our trust into males.  It seems that our one night stands become all we deserve.  Although this is not the situation for everyone, I feel that my standards have been lowered and lowered and lowered with the college dating culture.  Now, I feel that all I deserve is feeling wanted and loved for just a night.  Sometimes, hook up break ups hurt just as much as the real thing.

I admire those who are able to keep a relationship throughout college, but for some of us, it is not that easy.  I think part of the issue is the people I surround myself with AKA fratstars who think they are the complete sh*t, and I needed to broaden my friend group.

Anywho, college dating and the hookup culture is flawed and all I want is a night date at The Deli.  I will even split the cost…

Here are some statistics I used in my article for journalism:

1.  At the end of senior year, over 72 percent of students have had atleast 1 one night stand.

2.  1/3 of college juniors have been on 2 or less dates during college.

 

Marriage is Overrated

I think marriage is overrated. All it is to me is a signed document and a “promise.” But when one is getting married, how do they know the future? They don’t. I do not think that people have to be married to have children, I don’t think people have to be married to be in love forever. Now that I’m thinking of it…Who even created marriage?!

Who would think of it? Let’s go to a church, sign a paper, and celebrate us being in love? It doesn’t make sense to me especially in today’s culture. I feel that marriages are made to be broken, and if you grow and evolve as a person, chances are you are going to shy away from your partner at one point or another, and then it just puts you in a sticky situation.

In addition, I also agree that gay marriage should be legal, but I don’t think it should be such a big deal. Why spend your time fighting for a paper, instead of being happy and living your life to the fullest?

I know I am being very salty right now, but it’s because of things going on in my life, but I don’t feel comfortable going into detail. I think marriage just makes everything difficult, I think fighting is stupid, and I think you will always grow apart no matter what. Then you’re just “stuck” with them until you practically go bankrupt filing for a divorce.

I have seen too many couples fight, too many divorces, too many people fall out of love to believe that marriage is a good thing anymore.

No matter how fascinated you are about that “happily ever after,” marriage does not guarantee you everlasting happiness; it just makes you seem “normal.” You are always going to be happy over some things, and unhappy about others.

While reading an article on the Internet, I came across the idea that marriage is artificial and unnatural. There is nothing more natural then falling in love, but signing a paper to promise your partner to “love each other until death do us part,” is not natural at all. I think you should just let the love run its course, if it stays it stays, but if it dwindles, it happened for a reason.

On a side note: I would love to be the princess for the day, wear a beautiful dress, and drink champagne with all of my family and friends, but I think you’re lying to yourself, and believing in something you wish was true.

• “A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband.”
• “Love is blind, marriage is the eye-opener.”
• “If variety is the spice of life, marriage is the big can of leftover SPAM.”

Terrorist to Hero?

A story that has caught my eye in the media and news today pertains to the former ISIS female fighter, who has recently fled the military and wants to start a different life. She calls herself “Khadija,” and she is a petite 25-year old woman who agreed to meet CNN journalists in a hotel room in Turkey. Throughout the interview, the journalist notices her anxious body language and tone, although she is completely covered in her niqab. Before Khadija was a member of the fearsome, female ISIS group, she was an elementary school teacher. She told CNN that her upbringing was not very conservative, but she eventually decided to go with the crowd and join the masses that began “peaceful protests.” She described those days as “being great,” but then the violence spiraled out of control. She said she “ran away into something uglier.” But now, after seeing all of the gruesome acts that ISIS commits, she decided to take her family, run away and start over. She lost all of her humanity and soul, and she just wants to be happy again.

This story stuck out to me solely because it was about a female ISIS member, rather than a male. It was the first story I ever read about a female, and of course this story would be about her running away and starting a new life. I feel that CNN cuts her a lot of slack, as she was once a terrorist, who kills, carried a gun, and slashed women for their wardrobe malfunctions. All of the sudden, she decides that that life was not for her, and she is accepted back as a good person. I don’t think we should put all of our trust back into her, or they should’ve given more information about her background so we could make those decisions ourselves with more evidence. This woman expects everything to go back to normal, to be “a girl who is merry, who loves life and laughter, who loves to travel, to draw, to walk in the street with her headphones listening to music without caring what anyone thinks,” but I think it will take a lot more time than just a few months to completely change her mindset.

I do believe in second chances, but terrorism is not something I am able to forgive so lightly. I do admire this woman for realizing that ISIS was wrong, but there’s something about it that makes me uneasy. The reporter treats views this woman as a hero, who was able to step out of the path of destruction, and I do not think that is the right way to see this situation.

In addition, I was looking up opinions of the CNN article online, and here are some things I found.

  • “She slowly lifts her niqab, revealing her young, heart-shaped face. Her large brown eyes, filled with guilt and turmoil, are delicately made up under perfectly sculpted brows.” Is this a CNN article or romance novel?
  • “Maybe we should call her a hero, and others who follow her footsteps.”
  • “The only thing she’s good at is quitting.”

“Stealers, Keepers”

In India, a car is stolen every 6 seconds, but in the state of Texas, a car is stolen every 5.5 seconds according to thefuturist.com

If you don’t get caught, you deserve everything you steal.

Getting caught isn’t what makes something wrong.

What does it mean to “own” something? For most of us, owning something means that you bought it or you gave up something in order to get the object.

But what about stealing? You didn’t buy the item, but now you own it. The idea of theft and false ownership in America makes me very angry.

Before I came to college, I did not know how often people did it, as my friends in high school never even thought of stealing. If we couldn’t afford it, then tough luck, you couldn’t get it. If you get caught stealing just once major consequences will take place, so for me, it is not worth it at all. The costs outweigh the benefits. Stealing seems to be a trend in our culture today, and within society, it has increased greatly over the years especially in America.

I thought it was just a phase kids went through, but I continue to see it all the time and it continues to anger me. Yes its easy, you can nonchalantly put something in your bag in a store without anyone seeing, its not like people actually sit in a chair and stare at the security camera all day. I don’t know, I would just feel really guilty. Why aren’t people more honest?

You have a meal point plan! Why is it necessary to steal from the convenient stores around campus? Why do you go to Urban Outfitters and put clothes without a security tag in your purse?

It is something very foreign to me. It is not fair that you are in a higher social class than me, and you stole your outfit, while I spent all the money I made over summer on mine.

Maybe its not the act of actually doing it, but the way society deals with it. AKA they don’t really do anything at all. Society has a way of looking past things, and only focusing on the “important” things. But to change the way people act, you have to start somewhere small.

For example, while working in a clothing store, the manager on the first day told me to not worry if people steal any items, because it really does not account for a lot in the financial side of things. I was appalled that he would say this. How could I just ignore someone with a shirt shoved into their purse? After watching a 15-year-old girl take a hairband off the display, shove it in her pocket, and continue on her merry way, I realized this job was not for me. I quit the next day.

Stealing has become a larger problem recently, and you can clearly see the progression of it in regards to novels I have read over the years. For example, in Longbourn, the wealthy townsfolk “own” their servants, and have total control over them. Sarah reflects on the idea of actually owning a human, many times in the novel. She wonders what it would be like to be free – just like Elizabeth and Jane. Similarly, Sarah reflects on ownership, the ability to purchase grand items, and whether it is all worth it? The servants have nothing, but they still do not steal from the Bennet family or areas around town. If they can do it, so can America today.

Lady Catherine, You Are Annoying

Throughout Pride and Prejudice, there have been many characters that have attracted my attention in a negative way. The most obvious was Mrs. Bennet, then Wickham and his lies, and then Lydia and Kitty and their slut shaming attitudes. But above all, Lady Catherine De Bough, specifically in her attitude towards Elizabeth, takes the cake and wins the “Who Annoys Julie The Most Award.”

Congratulations Lady Catherine.

Lady Catherine is an opulent and catty noblewoman, Mr. Collin’s patron, and Darcy’s aunt. Throughout the novel, Lady Catherine tries to direct her prized nephew, Darcy away from Elizabeth. Lady Catherine has always gotten her own way in life, and she has no respect for others. Her greatest trait is telling others what to do in a domineering manner. Trust me, she is very good at it.

Elizabeth was introduced to Lady Catherine when she visited Charlotte and Mr. Collins after their engagement. Lady Catherine immediately starts “grilling” Elizabeth and asking her many personal questions.

“…Delivering her opinion on every subject in so decisive a manner as proved that she was not used to have her judgment controverted. She enquired into Charlotte’s domestic concerns familiarly and minutely, and gave her a great deal of advice, as to the management of them all; told her how everything out to be regulated in so small a family as her’s…”—I could continue this quote on, but I think you get the picture!

In addition, right off the bat, she critiques the Bennet family about their parenting. She said, “If I had known your mother, I should have advised her most strenuously to engage one. I always say that nothing is to be done in education without steady and regular instruction, and nobody but a governess can give it (127).” Lady Catherine, is a rude and nosy woman towards Elizabeth and her family.

At the end of the dinner party, she asks Elizabeth if she knows how to play any instruments (which she should, according to “Lady C.), and then she critiques Elizabeth’s piano skills, and tells her ways to improve, instead of encouraging her. But above all, when Lady Catherine hears rumors that Elizabeth and Darcy are engaged, her actions anger me the most. She immediately goes all the way to Longbourn to find out the truth. She tells Elizabeth that her daughter and Mr. Darcy, are meant to be together. Thankfully, Lady Catherine fails, and gives Mr. Darcy hope in marrying Elizabeth.

Aside from Lady Catherine’s, annoying and b****y attitude, Austen makes her the only woman who is independent in the novel. She is a super-rich widow, and owns her own estate. I do not know what Austen was trying to portray. Maybe she’s trying to say that women and power don’t mix? Is Lady Catherine only there to embarrass Darcy? Is Lady Catherine supposed to be comic relief? There are many unanswered questions about Lady Catherine in Pride and Prejudice, but I do know that she is annoying, rude, selfish, aggressive, overbearing, domineering…the list goes on and on.

Gender Differences

Gender differences and sexist actions are apparent very young in a child life. I vividly remember being in preschool, and having an outdoor activity that involved a sprinkler. Since no one wanted to get our clothes wet, we started to take off our shirts in order to play. The preschool teacher immediately yelled at the girls, ordered us to put our clothes back on, and sent us to timeout. The boys were allowed to play in the sprinkler without their shirts without a problem. That was one of the first times I experienced gender differences that caused me to miss out on an activity I wanted to do.  Additionally, during high school, I was a member of the track and field team.  Running 9 miles a day in 90 degree weather was close to torture, so one day the girls decided to take off their running tops, and just run in sports bras.  As the boys ran by without their shirts, the coach and athletic director ran after us yelling and telling us that we were too exposed.  They said that we were a “distraction”.

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Similarly, when I was in middle school, the “Black and White Ball” was the largest event of the school year. Instead of just being able to go as friends, like we did in previous grades, all of the girls became aware that they are at the appropriate age to go to the dance with a date. But, the girls would be frowned upon if they asked a boy to go with them, and we all waited patiently and prayed that our crush would ask us.

Later in life, my understanding of gender and sexuality differences became apparent in different ways. For example one time, I went to the car repair shop, for a simple repair. The men at the shop assumed that I did not know anything about the car, and tried to up sale the price. The acted like I needed a whole new part instead of just a simple fix. When I said that was not needed at this time, they asked to talk to my dad about the car, not my mother. They falsely assumed that the females had no idea.

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Lastly, one of the most recent events took place at work. I work at a restaurant, making less than minimum wage, and as the employees were complaining about the pay one day, another colleague, a male, stated that his pay was 2$ higher than all of the women working. When we asked about it, our boss said that his pay was higher because him being a male, he did more of the physical labor. In reality, we all have the same job, and the male employee was a complete slacker.

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Although I am only nineteen, I have noticed a distinct difference between men and women and the opportunities that are open to us in society. When will we be completely equal?

Brainwashed by Barbie…What a doll!

When a typical woman thinks back on her childhood, three things quickly come to mind:  Spagettio’s, crayons, and a Barbie Doll.  To an innocent child, the Barbie is more than just a doll; it often becomes part of a girl’s life.  Barbie is a friend, a stylist, a mentor, and even can become a role model for young children.  Many Americans can easily reminisce and think of a humorous story about growing up with Barbie dolls.  Tales may range from cutting off the blonde, long locks, to bringing the doll with you everywhere you went in the day; or even feeling a sense of loss when your little brother ripped the head off of a favorite doll from your prized collection.  Barbie dolls have become a way of life for Americans, and they have shaped the lives of many.  Although some may have sweet memories of the doll, the majority of people who played with the doll may have also experienced undesirable side effects.  Since the Barbie doll was developed in the 1950’s, the figurines have also impacted the lives of children in some negative ways.  Although the doll is technically just a plastic toy, young girls take much more from the Barbie experience than someone could even fathom, and have led millions of girls onto a path of low self-image and poor mental health.  The doll has led many girls toward eating disorders, body image issues, physical transformation, and lowered confidence.

Classic Barbie

Mattel, the company behind the Barbie enterprise, developed the doll in the 1950s.  A woman named Ruth Handler was the mastermind behind it all (Stone 12).  Ruth seemed to be the polar opposite of a Barbie doll.  Ironically, she looked nothing like her, and was even seen as a tomboy throughout childhood.  Ruth said, “I didn’t like dolls and never played with them” (Stone 11).  Ruth was described as being confident, self-assured, and ambitious, so why would she produce a conceited, “impossibly gorgeous” doll?

The face of Barbie?

Technically, Ruth did not even produce the doll herself.  When shopping in Europe in 1956, Ruth spotted a doll in a store window.  This figurine was referred to as the Lilli doll, and it arose from a comic strip that ran in a local German newspaper.  Lilli was known as a “sexy novelty gift for men, based on a popular comic strip” (Stone 27).  The intended audience of this doll was definitely not related to children, therefore, what did Ruth see in it?

Lilli is pretty creepy, if you ask me.

Years went by, and eventually Ruth produced the doll.  This doll would be 5’9”, and weigh 110 pounds.  In addition, her fat percentage would be so low, that she would not be able to menstruate, or live a healthy life (Human Barbie 2).  She would literally have to move herself on all fours, because or her distorted proportions (“If Barbie…” 1).

Barbie up close

At first, mothers said that they did not like the doll, and they wished their children would remain younger for a little longer.  Some girls themselves even described Barbie as being “sharp” and “snobbish” at first, but then the doll spread like wildfire, and no one looked back (Stone 29).  Barbie quickly left her mark on America, and became fully immersed in this country’s culture.  The creator, Ruth, was making a living off of the doll.  Young girls dropped all other toys and focused on the main attraction in their toy box, the beautiful Barbie.  Ruth basked in all her glory as young girls gained a plastic new best friend, and quickly fell in love.

Within only a few days after Barbie was introduced, it quickly impacted the lives of millions of girls in a materialistic way.  One of the first things to take off was the fashion impact of the doll.  Girls thought it was necessary to run to the store and buy many expensive outfits for the doll.  Everyone wanted to collect her accessories, and more specifically, they wanted to be just like her.  It was not long until the demand for the dolls was sky high.  It was almost as if girls were obsessed with the dolls.  Things soon took a turn for the worse, as the “Slumber Party Barbie” was launched.

Thanks for the advice!!!

In the early 1960s, just after the Barbie doll officially became popular, Ruth and her staff decided to introduce a new version of the doll, “Slumber Party Barbie”.  This doll came with a set that included a diet book, a scale, a hairbrush, and a sign that said, “How to lose weight? Don’t eat” (Slumber 1).  In addition, the scale only went up to 110 pounds, which is way below a woman’s average weight in America.  Consequently, this was the first time that Barbie was not just a toy, and it raised a lot of concern and problems in America.  Quickly, this specific doll was taken off of the market, but its legacy lingered on for seven years.  After Mattel’s first mishap, people began to understand that the effects of Barbie may run deeper than any person could have imagined.

Children began to be influenced by the toys and other media as girls were taught that it is desirable to be extremely thin, and all that mattered in life was outer beauty.  Mattel received many complaints by parents, and after this was released to the public, researchers ran a multitude of experiments and tests to see if the dolls really had an effect of their body image.  “The Alliance for Eating Disorders Awareness reported that 70 million people worldwide suffer from eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia.  About 90 percent of those with eating disorders are young woman between the ages of 12 and 25” (Barbie and Body Image 2).  During this survey, the women stated that they played with Barbies shortly before they were diagnosed at a young age.  Also, the survey stated that 18 out of 25 women who played with Barbies as a child would rather be run over by a truck, then be overweight (2).  In another series of research in regard to developmental psychology, scientists exposed young girls to three different types of dolls.  The girls, who viewed the Barbie doll, reported lowered body self-esteem, and a stronger desire to be thin than the girls who looked at the other dolls.  They found that the Barbie is a role model for young children, and those exposed have an increased risk of disordered eating and weight cycling (Hoskins 1).  One mother found a very upsetting post in her eight year old daughter’s room.  Sitting beside a collection of Barbies, Polly Pockets, and other toys was a list of her new “Diyet” techniques.  Her mother was awestruck that her daughter would be that greatly influenced by the doll, even before she was able to spell the word diet (“An epidemic”).  Children easily were swayed by their role models, and if they aspired to be like Barbie, they would have to be anorexic in order to achieve her look.

“2 keewee froots”

You could search the world and not find one person who looks like Barbie, that is, until you meet Valeria Lukyanova.  She played with Barbies at a young age, and she obsessed over them.  Soon enough, she aspired to be one, and she altered her body in order to look like the classic doll.  But, she refuses to say that she had any surgery done.  Barbies not only affected her physically, but emotionally, as she does not even have the courage to say that she received plastic surgery.  She said, “Many people say bad things about people who want to perfect themselves.  It’s hard work, but they dismiss it as something done by surgeons or computer artists…Some people even spread rumors about me and retouch my pictures to hurt me. But I don’t take them seriously.  I’m even flattered!  It’s what success is like.  I’m happy I seem unreal to them, it means I’m doing a good job” (Human Barbie 1).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=miiy166T9_U

Just diet and exercise Valeria?

Real life Barbie

In addition to extreme examples such as Valeria, Barbies have negatively affected more people than you could even realize, including me.  I played with Barbies at a young age, and I aspired to be her.  With her flowing blonde hair, beautiful body, and great fashion sense, I was in awe of her. I seemed to be the opposite, I had short, dark hair, freckles, and I was a chubby child.  Throughout the years, I have struggled with self-esteem, eating disorders, and body image.  I think this had a lot to do with the dolls that I played with at a young age; in addition to other negative influences from the media.  It is important to know that Barbies do not just cause eating disorders.  The doll’s other materialistic characteristics have the potential to negatively impact the lives of young girls.  Barbie is known for having a plethora of expensive clothing, and all that seems to matter to a child who plays with her is her perfect physical appearance.  A lot of dolls enable children to actually apply makeup to them, and also dress them, so it is not just the focus around weight that can be harmful.  Barbies have affected more than just the special cases of the people who we hear about in the news.  It is virtually impossible for anyone who plays with one not to try and measure themselves against her idealized perfection.

Barbies negatively affect millions of people every day, and attempting to be perfect is a goal with traumatic consequence, that will eventually lead to misery.  Many people attribute this suffering to the doll itself.  It is amazing how a small piece of plastic can be so powerful.  A psychiatrist named Carole Lieberman thinks that Barbie has been the most destructive force on the self-image of woman all over the globe (Stone 12).  The doll impacts children in a multitude of ways, and it causes more negativity then positivity.  Meanwhile, Barbie does not always offend everyone.  Some believe that the benefit of having a Barbie doll outweigh the costs.  Some people do not grow emotionally attached to their toy, and they just enjoy doing things such as dressing Barbie, or combing her hair.  Some parents actually think Barbies teach young girls how to be successful.  They believe that the diverse selection and multitude of doll themes can yield a chance for young girls to “become anything they want to be”.  A little girl could own a schoolteacher Barbie, a businesswoman Barbie, veterinarian, ballet dancer, or even an astronaut.  Although the clothes may change, the structure of the doll is the same; it just depends on your viewpoint and outlook of the doll as a whole.  To some, Barbie represents a woman with choices.  In addition, after the overwhelming amount of complaints and pressure, Mattel actually was persuaded to produce a different type of doll.  This doll is Barbie, but with real life, womanly proportions.  When holding these two dolls next to each other, the new invention looks overweight.  Although Mattel made this doll with the hope of increasing the diversity in their customer base, people just continued to buy the original Barbie.  There was a lack of advertising for this doll, and most people did not even know about it because Mattel wanted it to be that way.  Therefore, it essentially did nothing.

“fat” Barbie

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/dec/06/why-wont-buy-barbie-daughter-christmas

 

Barbies have negatively affected the lives of many children.  As a parent, it is important to monitor your child’s use of the Barbie, and make sure your daughter learns about the potential damaging effects it may have.  Some suggest not exposing your child to the doll at all, and instead believe it is better to let young girls play with a more conservative, practical toy.  Barbies have had a more negative effect on Americans than a positive one.  They have shaped the way girls grow up, and they have altered the mental health of the many children and young ladies.  How many more provocative dolls does Mattel have to produce before they are forced to take the doll off the market completely?  How fast do we want our children to grow up?  The creation and the continued existence of Barbies raise many questions about society and values, and have lead many girls down the wrong path since the fifties.

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Words of Wisdom

Imagine waking up in the back room of an oral surgeon’s office, with three holes in your mouth, to the sound of the doctor saying, “There were some malfunctions with your surgery, it’s going to be a long recovery.”  Not many people can say they died during their routine wisdom tooth extraction, but I sure can.  It’s a great conversation starter, in case you were wondering.

It was a Monday morning in January.  I anxiously got ready for my wisdom tooth surgery, and followed all of the rules.  I did not eat or drink 12 hours prior, I wore loose clothing, and I purchased a plethora of applesauce to aid with my healing for the days to come.  I obeyed my doctor’s orders, so why did the surgery go wrong?  I thought it was just going to be a routine dental surgery, but it turned out to be much worse.  While flipping through old magazines waiting to be called back into the operating room to begin the procedure, I said a quick prayer as I ran through all of the worst-case scenarios.  This would be my first surgery, and the first time I would go under anesthesia, so I was pretty nervous.

(This is a photo of my doctor with his nurses; mine was the one to the left of him!)

Finally the nurse came out and said the room was all ready for me, I unfortunately had to obey her, as I said goodbye to my mom and walked down the hallway.  Once in the room, I looked around and saw all of the tools they would be using.  Let me tell you, it was a bad idea to look at them, as you can see in the photo below.

The doctor came in and the nurse began the anesthesia.  1…2…3…I was put into a peaceful sleep.  The doctor began removing my impacted wisdom teeth, and everything seemed to be going as planned.  But about half way through my procedure the heart monitor began beeping, and the doctors and nurse realized that I had “flat lined”.  They quickly stopped the anesthesia, and I started breathing again.  But, because the anesthesia was reduced, I began to feel the operation and wake up.  I felt the pain of each yank, tug, and tear.  I was lying down on an uncomfortable operating table staring into the eyes of a man holding a scalpel and using clamps to grip my jaw to keep it from moving.  I began to panic, and so did the doctor and his assistants.  They had not experienced anything like this before, but the worst was yet to come.  Once I realized what was happening I began screaming bloody murder and begging for him to stop.  I was partly awake, so I could feel and hear everything that was going on.  I heard pops and scrapes, and I could taste the bloody dripping down the back of my throat.

I tried to get off the table to leave, so the nurses had to hold me down and attach me to the table.  The pain was so excruciating that I passed out and fell back to sleep, and eventually, the operation ended.  When I woke back up, I saw the doctor and began yelling at him in my half drugged state.  I called him an “asshole”, and I told him he was the worst doctor and person I have ever come in contact with.

(Just look at the guy!)

My mom rushed into the room as if she was running from a fire, and asked the doctor, “Who was screaming for the past hour in the back, it better not have been my daughter?”   He scowled and said I was a very “unruly patient, and someone they never experienced before”.  After the surgery and first confrontation with my mom, they took us into the “recovery room”.  The conversation went like this, “Mrs. Haupin your daughter flat lined during surgery and she was awake during it.  The screams were from her, and it is going to be a long recovery.”  With that news my mother fainted, and the nurse had to get her orange juice and a granola bar.  Instead of just one “unruly” patient, now there were two.  The doctor said he had to document the incident and notify my family doctor for legal reasons after my heart stopped, so we had to stay there even longer than planned before we were allowed to leave.  My father called the office after we left and the doctor explained the horrifying story to him.  He asked why he was not called to drive us home and the doctor did not have a response.

Once home, I immediately fell asleep, but when I woke up I experienced the worst pain of my life.  Since the procedure was so rough, additional cuts were created, as the teeth did not come out smoothly, therefore, the swelling was severe.  I looked like a chipmunk for two weeks, and everyone made fun of me at school.

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(The face of misery)

The days went by and eventually I started to heal, but it was a slow and painful process.  If the doctor was more careful in monitoring the anesthesia, I would not have had a reaction and everything may have gone as planned, but I felt lucky to be alive.  This memory will stay with me forever.

When I visited my family doctor a few months after, he said that my oral surgeon never notified him with any issues in the surgery.  He actually lied and said everything went as planned.  See, I know this may sound disrespectful, but the doctor was a jerk like I thought when I called him an “asshole” in my traumatized state.

A few months went by after the surgery and I was at my summer job at a country club, as the bar cart girl on the golf course.  Who would’ve guessed that my doctor would walk right up and ask me for a beer.  We both knew who each other was, but we didn’t say a word.  I was traumatized all over again.

(The exact spot where he asked for a beer!  That’s my golf cart!)

There have been many cases in which surgery for wisdom tooth extraction have gone wrong, and some even have resulted in death.  I think it is important to gain awareness about the risks up front so that less people may experience the trauma that I did and so that the surgeries are better controlled and regulated.  Since the procedures seem so minor to the doctor, I believe that sometimes they may pay less attention and fail to monitor the patient in a responsible way.  In surgery, if one thing goes wrong, the results can be catastrophic, and honestly, I am lucky that my situation turned out alright, as I was able to fully recover within a few weeks.  For some, like Jenny Olenick in 2011, the case was not the same.  She died from the same surgical complication that happened to me.  During the so-called “routine” surgery, her heart stopped and she was oxygen deprived just after 15 minutes of surgery.  They were not monitoring her heart rate, and she died ten days later due to hypoxia.  The death was described as an “accident”, but the doctor was sued for negligence.

 

When your body does not have enough oxygen and your heart stops under anesthesia, brain damage occurs, and in her case it was severe.  Similarly, after my surgery, my father was panicked because I was having difficulty with my schoolwork, and the SAT’s were coming up.  He worried that I had some minor brain damage as a result of the operation, but in the end, I thankfully did not.  I remember looking online the days after during recovery and found this quote, “Like any surgery, wisdom tooth extraction carries risks. The most common complication — permanent nerve damage causing numbness of the tongue, lips or cheeks — affects more than 11,000 people annually, according to a 2007 report in the American Journal of Public Health. But the surgery has also been linked to jaw and tooth fractures, brain tissue infections, life-threatening bleeding and hypoxia…With all the risks, some dentists question whether the extraction surgeries are even necessary” (Parents Sue).

Then, after looking up Jenny, I found an even scarier article about someone who died after having surgical gauze stuck in his throat.  The doctor didn’t even know the gauze was there, and the man died of a heart attack.  I remember reading how he actually started coughing during surgery, but the surgeon was too oblivious to even notice, or take action.

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(Where I sat during my recovery and researched people like Jenny)

 

It is important to ask your surgeon the “difficult questions” before surgery.  You should take your meetings with them very seriously, and ask questions.  Some questions may include understanding the type of equipment that will be used, what they would do in an emergency, and that they have a proper machine for monitoring the heart rate.  Jenny’s mother, Cathy Garger advocates with her awareness group “Families Eliminating Dental Deaths Urging Precautions, or FEDD UP” that all dental surgery that requires anesthesia should be done in the hospital where proper monitors are standard and available.  I was lucky they had a monitor in my surgeon’s office.  These are important to learn before surgery to understand the risks and to help ensure that things run smoothly in case of adverse reactions to the anesthesia.  In addition, understand that no surgery is minor, as anything can happen.  You must plan and prepare to minimize the risk of the worst, but hope for the best.  Make sure your doctor is experienced, trustworthy, open and honest with you, as people all react differently when under anesthesia during scary procedures.  Also, be thankful if things go as planned; even if you must make your way back through a scary event with a longer recovery, as I did.  Not all people are as fortunate after procedures with oral surgery requiring anesthesia.

 

 

 

Works Cited

“Parents Sue After Teen Dies During Wisdom Tooth Surgery.” ABC News. ABC News Network, n.d. Web. 19 Nov. 2013. <http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Wellness/wisdom-tooth-surgery-wise/story?id=15152980>.

Beginning of the Sisterhood

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Let the Sisterhood begin!

Last week, on September 8th, the first meeting for the 2013 sorority recruitment process began. It was just an information session, but also provided a feel for what is going to happen during the next few weeks. I have always wanted to join a sorority so it was exciting. Due to the fact that the meeting drew the attendance of hundreds of girls, some of whom were still not sure whether they would even rush, I began to feel a little bit nervous for the next week. During the meeting, we met some of the executive board of the Panhellenic Council, and we also were introduced to a few recruitment counselors. The meeting consisted of going over what to expect in the next few weeks, and learning background information that will help make recruitment run a little bit more smoothly. I am really looking forward to exploring what sorority life could have in store!