Monthly Archives: October 2014

Marriage is Overrated

I think marriage is overrated. All it is to me is a signed document and a “promise.” But when one is getting married, how do they know the future? They don’t. I do not think that people have to be married to have children, I don’t think people have to be married to be in love forever. Now that I’m thinking of it…Who even created marriage?!

Who would think of it? Let’s go to a church, sign a paper, and celebrate us being in love? It doesn’t make sense to me especially in today’s culture. I feel that marriages are made to be broken, and if you grow and evolve as a person, chances are you are going to shy away from your partner at one point or another, and then it just puts you in a sticky situation.

In addition, I also agree that gay marriage should be legal, but I don’t think it should be such a big deal. Why spend your time fighting for a paper, instead of being happy and living your life to the fullest?

I know I am being very salty right now, but it’s because of things going on in my life, but I don’t feel comfortable going into detail. I think marriage just makes everything difficult, I think fighting is stupid, and I think you will always grow apart no matter what. Then you’re just “stuck” with them until you practically go bankrupt filing for a divorce.

I have seen too many couples fight, too many divorces, too many people fall out of love to believe that marriage is a good thing anymore.

No matter how fascinated you are about that “happily ever after,” marriage does not guarantee you everlasting happiness; it just makes you seem “normal.” You are always going to be happy over some things, and unhappy about others.

While reading an article on the Internet, I came across the idea that marriage is artificial and unnatural. There is nothing more natural then falling in love, but signing a paper to promise your partner to “love each other until death do us part,” is not natural at all. I think you should just let the love run its course, if it stays it stays, but if it dwindles, it happened for a reason.

On a side note: I would love to be the princess for the day, wear a beautiful dress, and drink champagne with all of my family and friends, but I think you’re lying to yourself, and believing in something you wish was true.

• “A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband.”
• “Love is blind, marriage is the eye-opener.”
• “If variety is the spice of life, marriage is the big can of leftover SPAM.”

Terrorist to Hero?

A story that has caught my eye in the media and news today pertains to the former ISIS female fighter, who has recently fled the military and wants to start a different life. She calls herself “Khadija,” and she is a petite 25-year old woman who agreed to meet CNN journalists in a hotel room in Turkey. Throughout the interview, the journalist notices her anxious body language and tone, although she is completely covered in her niqab. Before Khadija was a member of the fearsome, female ISIS group, she was an elementary school teacher. She told CNN that her upbringing was not very conservative, but she eventually decided to go with the crowd and join the masses that began “peaceful protests.” She described those days as “being great,” but then the violence spiraled out of control. She said she “ran away into something uglier.” But now, after seeing all of the gruesome acts that ISIS commits, she decided to take her family, run away and start over. She lost all of her humanity and soul, and she just wants to be happy again.

This story stuck out to me solely because it was about a female ISIS member, rather than a male. It was the first story I ever read about a female, and of course this story would be about her running away and starting a new life. I feel that CNN cuts her a lot of slack, as she was once a terrorist, who kills, carried a gun, and slashed women for their wardrobe malfunctions. All of the sudden, she decides that that life was not for her, and she is accepted back as a good person. I don’t think we should put all of our trust back into her, or they should’ve given more information about her background so we could make those decisions ourselves with more evidence. This woman expects everything to go back to normal, to be “a girl who is merry, who loves life and laughter, who loves to travel, to draw, to walk in the street with her headphones listening to music without caring what anyone thinks,” but I think it will take a lot more time than just a few months to completely change her mindset.

I do believe in second chances, but terrorism is not something I am able to forgive so lightly. I do admire this woman for realizing that ISIS was wrong, but there’s something about it that makes me uneasy. The reporter treats views this woman as a hero, who was able to step out of the path of destruction, and I do not think that is the right way to see this situation.

In addition, I was looking up opinions of the CNN article online, and here are some things I found.

  • “She slowly lifts her niqab, revealing her young, heart-shaped face. Her large brown eyes, filled with guilt and turmoil, are delicately made up under perfectly sculpted brows.” Is this a CNN article or romance novel?
  • “Maybe we should call her a hero, and others who follow her footsteps.”
  • “The only thing she’s good at is quitting.”