The concept of leadership making resonates with me because of the followership experiences throughout my career. I believe that leadership is made, and that an effective leader-follower relationship can exist between any two willing people. Effective does not necessarily mean special, memorable, or electrifying—there will always be a range of connection qualities between people, creating a spectrum of synergy ranging from basic, competent, and reliable, all the way to transformational. But effective does set the baseline expectations between the leader and the follower: that time and repeated opportunity to connect will lead to increasingly better performance in a leader-follower relationship.
The situations where my leader did not invest in the making of their leadership relationship with me and other followers often ended badly. I’m a Xennial, born in a year that straddles the Generation X and Millennial Generation, and our attitude toward work has redefined the concept of work-life balance—quite simply, the majority of my life is outside of work (Rass, 2020). As I have in the past, I am still willing to invest myself in deeper involvement with my job, especially where there are opportunities for unique experiences, expertise development, or preparation to do next-steps for career moves and advancement. However, the assumption that I will play some games with my time and commitments in order to entice a leader’s affection is just not for me. It is purely unrealistic to expect me to arrive to a situation and give all of my time personal resources in order to solicit the attention of a leader. That is, it’s unrealistic without an equal initial investment from the leader and the organization. And yet, despite the proclivities of my generation, the times in my career when a leader and an organization invested in me, and we’ve created a synergy into which I want to invest myself in turn have been the most memorable, developmental, and impactful of my career.
The phases in leadership making table in Northouse (2018; Table 7.1) presents a succinct summary of these synergistic experiences—and a lens by which to view the failed connections. When a leader has invested in the time and the “making” with me, we’ve come together and made great things happen. And those great things required time away from my spouse and children, lost sleep, tested patience, tedious research, energized debate, and many other discomforts along the way. When a leader has assumed that I will be investing myself into their pet projects at levels beyond my job duties without much investment in me in the beginning, the situation has usually devolved into frustration and me choosing to depart for another opportunity. There are always more opportunities, and there are plenty of leaders out there who are naturally drawn to making their leadership, instead of taking it.
Northouse, P. G. (2018). Leadership: Theory and Practice (8th ed.). SAGE Publications, Inc.
Rass, A. (2020, February 6). Work-life balance: Views evolving with new generations. SFM Mutual Insurance. https://www.sfmic.com/work-life-balance-views-evolving-with-new-generations/