When I think of a leader I cannot help but think of people such as famous politicians and individuals who inspired or revolutionized a group of people. However, as I was in the kitchen making dinner with my honey, I pondered at the thought of leadership in relationships. I looked around and realized we both have our designated roles but can also admit that we are both leaders in our relationship in unique ways. In addition, I thought about our lesson on leadership traits and the Five Factor Model (FFM) of personality. The Five Factor Model of Personality distinguishes 5 dimensions of personality, including; conscientiousness (dependability), agreeableness, neuroticism (emotional stability/adjustment), openness to experience (intellectance) and extraversion (surgency). After performing an online search of traits needed in order to be a successful partner in a relationship I found the following traits to be most important: maturity, openness, honesty and integrity, empathy, and affection. Refer to http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/seven-qualities-of-an-ideal-partner/#.VvQqoWQrK1s for additional information.
Below I will illustrate how the Five Factor Model of Personality relates to an individual’s success as a leader just as it illustrates an individual’s success in a relationship.
- When high in conscientiousness or dependability, individuals are planful, hardworking and follow through with their commitments. In addition, individuals high in conscientiousness rarely get in trouble. Dependability is a major factor in a relationship and both partners must stick to their commitments and contribute equal work to the success of their relationship.
- Those that are high in agreeableness are “empathetic, friendly, and optimistic” (World Campus, 2016). In addition, agreeableness is important in relationships because teamwork and cooperation are the vital in group functioning. According to Nauraine (2010), relationships, especially marriage, require team work. Teamwork is required in relationships for many reasons but becomes most apparent when individuals are trying to resolve conflict. Individuals that are high in agreeableness show success as a leader because they are able to discuss issues and goals with the group and accept input and feedback from others.
- Neuroticism or emotional stability/adjustment refers to those who remain calm and also those who do not take mistakes or failures personally. As a leader, scoring high in emotional stability are able to help a group through difficult issues and can remain calm under pressure (World Campus, 2016). As a partner in a relationship, it is important to remain clam and be able to discuss issues and situations with your partner in a calm manner. Those who are unable to do so are likely to have longer lasting and more intense arguments with their partner.
- Openness to Experience or Intellectance is high in individuals who are curious and seek out new experiences. Having a higher than average openness to experience score is common amongst leaders. According to McCrae and Sutin (2009), openness to experiences shapes many aspects of relationships including; marriage and parenting.
- Extroversion (surgency) relates to individuals who are outgoing, self-confident and competitive. As a leader, scoring high in extraversion affects their ability to successfully influence a group (World Campus, 2016). In a relationship, scoring high in extroversion reflects an individual’s sense of trust as extroversion is related to self-confidence. See this article on Eharmony.com related to how extraversion traits influence the success of one’s relationship.
http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/science-of-extraversion/#.Vvp2fmQrI1g
In all, it is important to recognize the many aspects of leadership and how leadership can be applied in a variety of settings and situations. An individual leading a group has similar characteristics to an individual leading a successful relationship. Please look at the chart below and compare low vs. high scores of the big five characteristics and how they would fit into a relationship. For example, do you think one with a higher or lower score for extroversion would benefit in a relationship?
References
McCrae, R. R., & Sutin, A. R. (2009). Openness to Experience. In M. R. Leary and R. H. Hoyle (Eds.), Handbook of Individual Differences in Social Behavior (pp. 257-273). New York: Guilford.
Nauraine, J. (2010). Chicago Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Psychotherapist, Johanna Nauraine. Retrieved March 29, 2016, from http://www.therapistinchicago.com/Chicago-licensed-psychotherapist-about-me.html
Pennsylvania State University (2016). Leadership in Work Settings—PSYCH 485. Online course lesson. Penn State World Campus. The Pennsylvania State University. Retrieved January 21,2016from https://courses.worldcampus.psu.edu/sp16/psych485/002/content/02_lesson/06_page.htm l