Anyone can walk up to a podium and say something to a crowd. There are no qualifications. If you want to gain a following it normally helps to say something smart, inspiring or valuable.
BUT.
How can you *actually* stand out as a leader?
Be real.
Be authentic.
How?
Be vulnerable. Put yourself out there. Let your [potential] followers get to know you. There are thousands, perhaps even millions of people trying to be leaders. Uniqueness will attract your followers. Connection will keep them around (Northouse, 2019, p. 200).
That’s where this idea of authentic leadership comes from. Northouse (2019) describes it as “genuine” (p. 197). Followers are often insecure or apprehensive and look to leaders for reassurance. According to Northouse (2019), this is where authentic leadership comes in, it meets the demands of trustworthy leadership, especially in a world where the media is brimming with “fake news” and “professionals” with no credentials (p.197).
Northouse goes on to list the three qualities of authentic leadership as intrapersonal perspective, interpersonal process and developmental perspective (Northouse, 2019, p. 198). The main focus of the intrapersonal perspective is the leader’s knowledge, self-regulation and the concept they have of themselves (Northouse, 2019, p. 197). Contrastingly, the interpersonal process’ focus is on the relationship between leaders and followers (Northouse, 2019, p. 197). Alternatively, the developmental leadership process focuses on leadership as something that can be refined and developed (Northouse, 2019, p. 197). In each of these areas, authentic leadership is a process. The varying processes value experience, relationships to achieve goals and developing leadership over time, respectively (Northouse, 2019, p. 198).
I think he is missing one thing. Vulnerability.
Such an idea would fit within his interpersonal process definition, but I believe it is worth being specifically mentioned.
In my experience, vulnerability fosters connection. Funerals can be an example of this; people who would not otherwise be drawn together connect while reminiscing on good times. Something I have personally experienced is showing empathy to someone going through a hard time. Sharing our own stories can give them hope. Such things are not ones I want to post here, on the internet, for all to see. However, they make a world of difference in a one-on-one conversation.
The idea of the interpersonal process was developed by leaders and followers, and it highlights the importance of the exchange between them [leaders and followers] (Northouse, 2019, p. 198). Reciprocity is the main idea here because followers affect leaders and vice versa (Northouse, 2019, p. 198). However, my idea of vulnerability takes this one step further.
Authentic leadership requires authentic relationships. It would do no good for a leader to build relationships and invest their time doing so, all the while pretending to be someone they’re not. One of the characteristics of authentic leadership, in the George approach, is strong relationships (Northouse, 2019, p. 200). I believe this is where vulnerability comes in.
The George approach discusses sharing one’s own story and listening to another’s story, but I believe it goes farther than this (Northouse, 2019, p. 200). You see, anyone can learn to craft a story and regurgitate it in a compelling manner. That is simply a skill that can be learned. Listening to other people’s stories is a skill too. Anyone can learn to be a good listener. Now, I’m not suggesting these are not leadership skills, because they are. However, high-quality authentic leadership should go a step further.
Instead of cutting out the “ugly” parts, tell them. No one’s life is a magazine. That isn’t relatable. Yes, followers will look up to a fairy tale story, but it won’t resonate with THEIR story. Telling the hard part will foster connections. It will open the door to real and authentic conversations. It will make them willing to stick around if things get hard again because they’ll be in your corner. It will encourage them to share their scary parts. Again, that will open the door to more authentic conversations.
Leaning into vulnerability will take the connection, sense of trust and closeness that the George approach covers to a much deeper and more sincere level (Northouse, 2019, p. 200). This is the openness that people are looking for (Northouse, 2019, p. 200). Vulnerability is a step further than the transparency from the George approach (Northouse, 2019, p. 200). Consider it like this… transparency is relaxing the boundaries, and fully disclosing real-life, messy, circumstances. Vulnerability is letting people in on the real and raw emotions that accompany real-life, messy, circumstances.
Leadership is a process, and including vulnerability transforms you from one among millions to one in a million.
References:
Northouse, P. G. (2019). Leadership: Authentic Leadership (pp. 197-200). Los Angeles: Sage Publications.