After reading this week’s lesson and text, I wanted to share my experience as a woman in leadership. I have worked at my current employer for 17 years. In my time, I have held the role of individual contributor, but the majority of my time has been spent in a position of leadership. Reflecting back on my journey, I experienced a great deal of the obstacles outlined in the lesson and text. The overwhelming majority of leaders at my organization are men. Up to a point, all of my direct supervisors had also been men. There was a period of time where I was applying for promotions, and each time the male hiring manager offered the position to another male. While I can understand the idea that maybe I was just not qualified, or the other person interviewed better and all the other “feedback” I was offered if we were simply speaking to results and performance, I was better on paper. It was not until I was placed on the team of a female leader that I was given my first promotion. After some time, I began to look for my next position, the same pattern continued. In fact, thinking through my entire career, I can only refer to two times I was awarded a position by a male authority that was responsible for the hiring decision.
In my industry, there is certainly a disproportionate distribution of female leaders as compared to male. In every role I held, I remained the only female leader on my team. In the instances where I was offered the promotion, my boss was also a female but I remained the only female leader on the team. In my current role, I am one of two females. The top-level leaders at my organization are made up of, you guessed it, all men and one woman.
I can also see how I alter my behaviors to better suit a societies idea of the female role. The challenge for a woman in leadership is finding the balance. If I am too direct, I am labeled a you-know-what. If I am too passive, I am a pushover. Northouse further illustrates this trap stating that “women face a double standard in the leadership role “they must come across as extremely competent but also as appropriately “feminine” (Northouse, 2016, p. 408). I am constantly assessing my approach to control the perception of my leadership. I do notice that I tend to lean towards a more transformational approach to my personal leadership style, which Northouse identifies as “beneficial for women” because it is not particularly masculine and more representative of traditional feminine behaviors (Northouse, 2016). Unfortunately, society has maintained that leadership is a masculine quality, more suited to men than women. The cultural norm remains that “the characteristics associated with leadership roles have been attached more to men than to women. As a consequence, it is assumed that leadership is more congruent with the masculine gender role than the feminine gender role” (Garcia-Retamero & López-Zafra, 2006). This use of a more transformational approach to leadership gives me the opportunity to lead, but still satisfy some of the gender norms I am restricted to.
Another thing I can relate to as to holding back my progress as a female leader is the unavailability of strong female mentors. This lack of mentorship can be explained by differences of human capital. This purports that women simply do not have the experience, education or training that male counterparts have. If we think about it, how can I develop as a leader if I am not given the same opportunities as a man, BECAUSE I do not have the experience. In other words, I cannot get experience, if you will not let me. This takes me back to the idea of mentors; there are not enough female mentors to go around, and men do not want to mentor me. If we look across the leadership teams within organizations, women are few and far between— especially women holding rank and power” (Johnson & Smith, 2016 p.22). The fact is, that women “face far more hurdles than men when it comes to securing mentors” (Johnson & Smith, 2016 p.13) and a large piece of this is due to the fact that so few are available. It is a cycle that keeps repeating itself. This is where men need to step in and take on female mentees if society is going to progress and break the rhythm.
The challenges faced by women in the sphere of leadership are glaring…to women. As a woman, I challenge men in positions of leadership to take the opportunity to mentor and develop a female and her leadership skills. Not only will she benefit, but the male leader and organization as a whole stand to gain a lot from developing women and their leadership capabilities. According to Athena Rising, “When men mentor women, those women make more money, enjoy more promotions, receive greater acceptance from other men in the workplace, and are more satisfied with their careers— and, most important, mentored women are far more likely to remain loyal to the organization in which they are mentored” (Johnson & Smith, 2016 p.43). The benefits are substantial for everyone involved. Leadership isn’t just for men, and women need men to help move them upwards.
References
Garcia-Retamero, R., & López-Zafra, E. (2006). Prejudice against Women in Male-congenial Environments: Perceptions of Gender Role Congruity in Leadership. Sex Roles,55(1-2), 51-61. doi:10.1007/s11199-006-9068-1
Johnson, W. B., & Smith, D. (2016). Athena rising: How and why men should mentor women. Brookline, MA: Bibliomotion.
Northouse, P. G. (2016). Leadership: Theory and practice. Thousand Oaks, CA: SAGE Publications.