Personalized Personalities

Hello Everyone! Welcome to Modern Misogynist, your hub for all frustrations female. This blog is intended not to offend, merely to entertain and hopefully resonate with some of you and your girl problems. Agree, disagree, tell me I’m an idiot; All opinions and comments are welcomed. Regardless of your possession of a Y chromosome or two X’s, we all know how confusing girls can be. So let’s get started, shall we?

PERSONALIZED PERSONA

Male or female, we all have many sides to our personalities. Whether you’re at work, at home, or out on the town, you show a different side of you. I like to think of each of us as a jigsaw puzzle of the different sides of our personalities, whose pieces fit together to give us a definition of who we are individually. This is normal.

Women, however, take this personality shift to a whole new level.

Whereas guys may iron their shirt or crack a few jokes to fit in better, girls will take on an entirely new persona. Girls will wear 6-inch heels that blister their feet and act confused when they’re not and laugh at jokes they don’t think are funny just to come off the way they think people want them to. Now, don’t get me wrong. I do it too. Who hasn’t curled their hair or spent a little more time on their makeup to just to impress someone? But this practice can be dangerous. You start dressing a little fancier and people get used to it, so the next time you roll out of bed and throw on a pair of sweats you start to get comments: “Rough night last night?” “What happened to you?” Or worse. You’re pressured into sticking to your $50 jeans and designer shoes just to avoid negativity.

Women, it seems, have an inherent desire to please everyone. So we alter ourselves instead of accepting who we are and letting others do the same. From this we now have the group of female role models preaching about self-acceptance. From Beyonce’s “Flawless” to the Today Show’s “No Makeup Monday,” it seems the next big social movement is an effort to put Maybelline out of business. I in no way have anything against showing off your natural beauty, but I do love my concealer. And is that really so wrong? If you’re born with naturally clear skin or can get a full 8 hours of sleep a night and avoid having the rings of Saturn under your eyes in the morning then more power to you. However, not all of us have that luxury. Makeup and manageable hair and an occasional dress up day can give you a huge confidence boost (as we girls often need). So if you feel like wobbling around in heelsĀ all day because they make you feel hot, then you go for it, but don’t forget about the ever-important ponytail and sweatshirt days. Just don’t change who you are and (more importantly) who you want to be to make someone like you. As any sensible woman will tell you, letting yourself get pressured into being something you’re not never puts you in a position to be happy.

So, girls, do what you want. Wear what makesĀ you feel good. Say whatever is on your mind. And guys, pay attention. Girls are who they are whether they’re in sneakers or stilettos. Don’t think something is wrong just because a girl who normally looks like she walked straight out of Vogue decided to pull her high school track sweatshirt out of the closet. Whether you’ve seen it or not, that’s a side of her, and it deserves to be seen just like all of the others.

2 thoughts on “Personalized Personalities

  1. I love that you focus on a point that is often overlooked when it comes to this whole movement to put away the makeup. Before, women were pressured by society to use makeup to meet unrealistic expectations. Now, women who prefer using makeup are being shamed because some people believe that threatens this new lifestyle. What this movement should be about is giving a choice. Women shouldn’t be shamed for not wearing makeup. Women shouldn’t be shamed for wearing makeup. Women should be able to make an active choice in what they do to make themselves feel good without harming other people. Many times when a social movement for anything starts, people lose sight of that goal and instead turn it into an aggressive demonstration of reform. You clearly support giving women the choice they deserve, and I really do appreciate that. I look forward to hearing more of your viewpoints!

  2. This post is awesome. Makes me think of the double standard men often hold women to: we like natural beauties, but God forbid you leave your dorm in sweat pants. Can’t say I know how it feels to always feel like you have to look your best, but I bet this blog will open my eyes a little.

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