“Curve Machines”

Curve: The action of showing interest in a given situation or individual with no intention of carrying out the outcome expected by the opposing party

Background Information:  Many guys have the complaint that they go to parties or other social situations and are “curved” by girls. The common argument (from what I gather) is that the female population puts in more effort than they normally would to go out and once out, they talk to and flirt with guys and pursue no further physical or emotional contact.

Needless to say, this apparent phenomenon upsets the male population.

Now, I don’t mean to be blunt, but this entire argument is completely ridiculous. Yes, girls do like to look good when they are around people. However, most girls don’t do it for the attention. Girls dress the way they do because it feels good to look good, and that’s what the social scene is about. Sorry guys, but girls don’t dress up to please you; they dress up to please themselves.

But the real issue between guys and girls is flirting. I can’t tell you the amount of times I have heard guys complain about a girl talking to them for any extended period of time (emphasized because apparently an extended period of time in the guy world is about the same length as “Freebird”), and then finding out that they have a boyfriend or simply don’t want to continue talking to them. And to this I say, so what? How many times do we go through life and speak to new people that we will never see again? Thousands of times, at least. Why should it be any different because you’re at a party?

I’ll admit, some girls (many, even) do have flirtatious tendencies that could lead someone to believe that their night will end with a hook up. And what kind of a sad reality is that, knowing that any cute guy you talk to might just be trying to sleep with you? It’s fun to flirt innocently. It’s exciting to learn about someone you find attractive and see if you’re compatible. And anyone should be able to do that without feeling pressured into anything above a simple conversation, whether male or female.

That being said, I know that not everyone has a predisposition that everyone they talk to wants to sleep with them. I’m sure there are people who go to parties and socialize with no expectation of something in return. There is good in the world, even in the crazy mixed up world of college. What I am saying, however, is that it is all too common that the previous account holds true.

How to Get a Girl….for Dummies

As complicated as girls are, we’re not that difficult to win over. However, many guys still seem to think it’s some ridiculously arbitrary process with no rhyme or reason. So guys, I’ll help you out. Here’s your guide for how to get a girl.

 

1. Be attractive:

It’s harsh to say, but let’s be real, it’s important to you and it’s important to us. The thing that people don’t seem to realize is that everyone has a different type. So step one is to find out if you’re their type, and if not, maybe try someone else. Now, the attractiveness factor is of varying levels of importance depending on who you talk to, so I’m not saying it’s impossible to win her over if you’re not her type… but it is more difficult.

 

2. Take interest:

It seems like a bit of a stupid thing to say, but it is important. You obviously have to take interest in a person, but I think guys tend to overlook the small things. And I’ll let you in on a little secret: the small things are the most important. It’s remembering to ask how the exam she was stressing about went or remembering her dog’s name or even just asking how her day went. Just remember the details, that’s all you need. Imagine the girl you’re interested in is one of your favorite sports players. Know her as well as you know your fantasy football team.

 

3. Hang out:

From what I’ve noticed, guys seem to put too much of an emphasis on going out instead of hanging out. However, going out isn’t what matters to girls. In fact, most girls would prefer to sit at home and watch a movie or get coffee than some super official date (although those do need to happen every once in a while). Going out means pressure. It means eyes can be on you and there’s the possibility of seeing people you know. It can be stressful, and most girls are more concerned with how they look or come across than the person they’re with. So, my best advice would be to ditch the date. It’s more relaxed, more fun, and it saves you some money.

 

4. PDA

No one likes copious amounts of affection in a public setting. It’s gross, get a room people. However, girls do like PDA in small doses. So hug her, hold her hand, something small. Especially now as it gets colder. *Secret #2: When a girl says how cold she is walking down the street, she’s probably encouraging you to put your arm around her. It’s not true 100% of the time, but I’d say about 95% of the time it is.*

 

Basically that’s it. Girls aren’t exactly the most complicated beings in the world. Four steps and she’s practically yours. You just gotta make it official.. AND DO THAT. It’s important. No one likes having to talk to their friends and be like “well we’ve hung out a couple times… but we’re not really dating per say…. I don’t really know what’s going on actually.” So define your relationship. Then BAM. You’re set. Magic.

Wants and Woes

There are many things in the world which we want. However, no matter how much money you have or how great your grades are or how many friends you have, it is human nature to desire more. What about that friend who seemingly gets everything they want? Yes, them too, even more-so than most.

Now, I’m not talking about objects. Tangible things are easy. If you want a new pair of shoes or to lose a couple pounds, no problem. You can get those things alone. The sticky part comes when what you want depends on other people.

Girls are specialists in wanting what, or more specifically who, they can’t have. Once a girl sets her focus on one person, it takes everything short of the jaws of life to rip her from her idea of who that person is. Why is this? Because girls are eternal optimists. We think that we can reach any goal or get any person we want if we try hard enough. So, girls wear their prettiest clothing and put on their fakest smiles and act their most appealing, hoping to get the attention of one person who most likely isn’t even looking. And that’s a difficult concept to accept. However, it’s a very real fact of life that some people in your life just won’t pay that much attention to you. Sorry to break it to you.

Whether the object of a female’s affection is interested in someone else or merely not interested in them for whatever reason or no reason at all, no manicure or $300 pair of heels is going to change that fact.

We have all grown up being told that everyone is beautiful and you can do anything you set your mind to. However, as committed as you are and as smart as you are and as anything as you are, no one on this earth has the ability to alter the emotions of those around us. Hard as we may try, it simply cannot be done. Therefore, girls will pine for way too long over a version of reality that probably will never exist.

Now, this isn’t to say that guys don’t do the same thing. boys certainly want things and people they can’t have. They’re just less passive about it. Whereas girls will subtly drop hints or silently admire from afar, boys are more likely to act on their desires. And at least on this issue, I’m giving credit to the boys, as they hold strong in the face of rejection and at least get an answer. When you take a shot, you know beyond a shadow of a doubt whether or not you have a chance. And as much as rejection and the embarrassment that can accompany this effort is painful to experience, that embarrassment and rejection and pain is fleeting. You can move on much more quickly and completely knowing that nothing you could’ve done would change this outcome. But pining, hopping that minor superficial changes will pique someone interest is torturous, and it is long term. It is indecisive. The eternal “what if” is much more damaging than a one-time “oh well.”

Here, we have something to learn from the boys. Girls need to get over their fears of rejection and embrace the possibility of embarrassment as the price of possible happiness. Do the risks really outweigh the reward?

Courting Courtesy

Okay, let’s just put it out there. Girls are pretty much the worst when it comes to flirting so I’ll try and explain some things (although honestly who really knows we don’t make sense.)

Right off the bat, the most important thing to learn about girls is the difference between flirting and trying to not be mean. I’ll admit, it’s very difficult to tell which is which, and don’t think that’s unintentional. Girls have an inherent desire to be nice; we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. And, in all honesty, we like to be complimented so we’re reluctant to turn someone away especially if we don’t think we’re causing any harm. (Again, girls suck, I know.) However, while girls will not blatantly turn a guy away, we will not condone advances. Here are some examples of how girls will respond to unwanted advances:

“Aw, thank you!”

“You’re so nice!”

and my personal favorite…

the ever-so elegant, ” 🙂 ”

So, if you’re trying to chat up a girl and all of her responses sound like these ones, I apologize but you should probably direct your efforts elsewhere.

Now, you may be asking yourself why girls continue to respond when they know they’re being hit on, and as terrible as it is, a girl will do it because a) she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, b) she likes the attention c) she doesn’t know how to tell you to stop or c) she’s sort of involved with someone else but they’re not exclusive and she wants to keep her options open.

If you are in this sort of a situation, it will inevitably change into the girl not wanting to talk to you and not wanting you to talk to her anymore, and it’s not for any particular reason. Now, whether this occurrence is a result of the fading of a relationship you had with her or because she was never interested in you, the consequences are the same. A girl who wants you to leave her alone will initially leave long periods between text messages or phone calls, only to respond eventually with some drawn-out apology because she feels bad for ignoring you. But eventually, they will stop responding all together.

It is important to note that girls (at least mature girls with any sort of moral compass) by no means intend to hurt you or think anything less of you. Everything a girl does is justified in her mind. No girl will do anything that she thinks will cause negative consequences. “No harm, no foul” means green light in the girl world.

As much as I, along with many other people, try to understand girl world and the enigma that is the female brain, I do not claim to take any of this as fact. There is no full understanding of the female brain because every girl is different and reacts differently to certain situations. These are merely observations I’ve made and trends that I’ve noticed that give me some solace in regard to my understanding of my own species. But let’s be honest, there’s no understanding us. Sorry boys. (and girls)

 

Modern Misogyny

Apparently I’m late in discovering this, but I just watched the speech given by Emma Watson to the UN launching the new “He for She” gender inequality campaign, and it really got me thinking about the role of gender in modern society. (I will link the video at the end if you want to watch it. I recommend you do.)

We’ve all heard the countless rants about feminism and man-hating and the battle of the sexes, but I don’t want to talk about that. I want to talk about gender inequality in the setting we relate to, in the college scene.

Gender inequality plagues our existence throughout our entire lives, in one way or another. In college, however, it is intangible. This gender inequality exists (for the most part) in how we are viewed. For instance, the stigma that comes from “being emotional.” Girls are notorious for sharing emotions or as it is so fondly referred to, “being dramatic.” Now, I will be the first to tell you that emotions can be incredibly irritating, whether they are your own or someone else’s. Nonetheless, emotions (especially at our age) are a big part of life and cannot be cast aside. While it is generally accepted that girls will share their feelings, guys are expected to suppress everything they feel. It is wrong for a guy to be upset. It is wrong for a guy to even be too happy. And it is especially wrong for a guy to be hung up on a girl. Somewhere along the line we developed this idea that having any real sense of emotion is a form of weakness, and is automatically a feminine quality. Now I will agree that it appears as though women are naturally more in touch with their emotions, but is it really nature? Or has it just been instilled in the minds of men that they are not supposed to show emotion?

Another commonplace of college-life gender inequality is that which presents itself approximately three sentences into every conversation, “What’s your major?” Somehow we have all gained this idea that women are supposed to have certain jobs separate from men. And such an outdated mindset this is. Every time I have heard a girl mention that she is studying engineering or medicine or any other “difficult” major, the overwhelming reaction is that of surprise, and with no justification I can possibly imagine would be valid. Male-dominated fields are rumored to have different standards for women just to gain a female presence in the field. For the life of me, I could not explain to you why there still are certain parameters in the minds of the general population which limit what women (or men for that matter) are capable of doing, however they are still very real in modern society.

Granted, the progress we have made in America regarding social equality, gender and otherwise, has been remarkable. There was a long period of time in which women could not even dream to go to college, let alone have the freedom to choose their own course of study. However, we are not done. There is still a long way to go before we can say that men and women in America are treated equally.

 

As promised, here is Emma Watson’s speech for the He for She campaign launch (it’s worth a watch, I promise)

Carbohydrate Catharsis

Girls are, by designs, creatures of heartbreak. We are inherently vulnerable to the torment which comes from investing too much into our relationships with other people. It is all but inevitable that someone or something down the line is going to break us. And the problem with that is, of course, how do we deal with it? Well, fear not, I have the fix for your girl problems. (Guys, pay attention too! This will come in handy!)

Problem: Girl Feud: So you got in a fight with one of your girlfriends. It happens to the best of us. You know you can’t possibly stay mad at her for very long and the same is true for her, but, for now, the silent treatment really sucks. So what do you do to ease the pain?

Solution: Action Film and Chinese Food. Grab one of your (preferably non-mutual) friends and sit down with your favorite msg-enriched carb-protein combo and delve into 2 and a half hours of muscular guys performing manly feats. Trust me, you’ll quickly forget all about how Ashley and Sarah didn’t invite you out last week.

 

Problem: Rejection.  This is a tough one. Maybe you were just broken up with. Maybe you saw the guy you have a crush on flirting with some random girl (and does he think she’s prettier than you?!!) Maybe that guy you’ve been talking to you hasn’t texted you all day even though it’s already 9pm and he texts you everyday and maybe he’s just busy but how long does it take to send a text message???? Either way, your self esteem has taken a hit due to the actions of other people and you can’t control it.

Solution: John Tucker Must Die and Pizza. The ultimate heartbreak combo. Because you’re feeling slightly less than emotionally stable and somewhere in your mind you resonate with the girls who just want revenge on the stupid boy who hurt them (and you secretly want to be Brittany Snow, admit it.) So have that fourth slice of grease-slathered deliciousness because who are you trying to impress anyway?

 

Problem: That darn second X-Chromosome. Has it been four weeks already? Yup, it has. You think you’d get used to that visit from Mother Nature, yet somehow it’s a whole new horror each month. Welcome that time when all you do is wish you were a man and constantly want to lay in bed and whine. I mean I guess it could be worse…. you could be pregnant. But nonetheless, you feel ugly, you have no motivation to put pants on, and there is nothing short of a satanic entity desperately clawing at your abdomen trying to get out.

Solution: A bag of Reese’s peanut butter cups and a Nicholas Sparks film. Let’s face it. You’re emotional and in very literal pain. Fighting it is only going to make it worse. So, pull out your comfiest blanket and favorite candy and let the emotions roll as you watch beautiful people face all sorts of insurmountable odds to be with one another. This is the only time you will allow yourself to fully delve into the sappiness, so just let it happen. Keep your tissues close and wait to drown in your emotions. Oddly enough, it’ll make you feel better.

+Follow

Social Media. We love it don’t we? I mean it’s phenomenal. You can start at your twitter home page and 10 minutes later you’re looking at pictures from your ex-boyfriend’s second cousin’s best friend’s quinceanara. (Believe me, it happens) And in case my previous statement wasn’t clear, girls are nothing short of insane when it comes to social media and texting and pretty much communication in general.

First off, we have Facebook, which is almost obsolete nowadays but nonetheless is worth mentioning. Girls are notorious Facebook stalkers. They can find all of your basic information and most of your private information in a matter of minutes. And those embarrassing pictures from 6 years ago? You can bet the girl whose friend request you’ve just accepted has seen all of them and probably judged you a little bit. FYI.

What once started on Facebook, however, has now evolved into the much more intrusive and fast-paced twitter.  The great thing about twitter is that everything you tweet is fleeting. You can tweet whatever you want and it could only show up in a handful of timelines. But, everything is visible to females. as much as we stalked facebook, we stalk twitter even more. We see your tweet about not being ready for your chem exam. And what’s worse is that we analyze. Girls suddenly become members of the BAU when we look at your twitter profile. We theorize who you’re thinking about when you quote that Adele song. And this goes for guys and girls. We analyze everyone. (Very intrusive, we are.) The amount of time we spend stalking twitter is directly proportional to the number of tweets we post over a given time period. And I’ll be honest, the female twitter profile is just god awful. It seems all we do is post about feeling ugly or pictures of our cats or  subtweets about guys. (in case you don’t know, a subtweet is a tweet in which a specific individual is referenced, however no indication is made in regard to who the specific individual is)

But undoubtedly the most fun thing to talk about regarding girls and communication involves the direct conversation between two people. Whether it be a snapchat or a text message, girls expect to be prioritized. If we see the solid arrow become a mere outline on snapchat we expect to get a snap. Although I must say girls are less intense about snapchat than they are about text messages. And I blame read receipts on the iphone. Now, we can see that you opened our text message and are not responding intentionally. So, if you make the bold choice to turn on your read receipts, expect either a secretly offended friend or girlfriend or a multitude of text messages sent directly after another in hopes of making you respond. Also, girls are impatient, so respond quickly, I beg of you. In mentioning texting, you must mention emojis. Emojis are beautiful things. What started as a simple colon-close parenthesis combination to indicate happiness has evolved into an entire keyboard dedicated to explicitly telling the emotion which was meant to accompany your message. Girls love emojis because they set a tone with a message. We know (with relatively low variation) what you’re feeling and as a result, how we are to respond to your message. So use emojis. It’s for your own good.

Basically, social media is the outlet for girls to be as creepy as they could possibly wish to be. It’s wonderful, that we can connect with each other with a single click, but it can also be very scary. My only word of advice is to remember while you’re tweeting, texting, tagging Facebook photos, etc., that it cant be erased. My rule of thumb is, before I post, to imagine the person I least want to embarrass myself in front of reading it and wonder what impression it gives them. If nothing else, just remember what’s on the internet is there forever. So be careful.

Flirting with the Friend Zone

Now, this is surely a topic that will get some push back. So lets have some fun.

The Friend Zone: a static point in a relationship between a male and a female in which one party desires a more meaningful, romantic relationship where the second party does not in fear of damaging the friendship in its current standing

Any person that hasn’t been hiding under a rock for the past few years has seen tweets, facebook statuses, blog posts, etc. highlighting the sad saga that accompanies residence in the “friend zone.”  I have no confirming information regarding the origins of the term itself, but I believe the idea of the friend zone comes from boys who have tried to take the next step with one of their good friends only to be rejected with a justifying “You’re such a good friend to me. I don’t think we should complicate that with a relationship.” However, nowadays it seems to be a clever ruse that guys hide behind as an excuse to avoid that initial step and feed their own fear of rejection. You will see many guys go around saying they’ve been “friend-zoned” when in actuality the object of their affection has no idea of their feelings and may in fact feel the same way.

On the other hand, the entire premise of the friend zone is inherently presumptuous. The frustration girls have with the friend zone is that it makes things seem as though their male friends cannot value them as friends. All girls really want is to know that they are an important part of your life and you will care about them whether you are friends or something more. Friendship is a mental and emotional relationship first and foremost. It should not come with an expectation of romance or a physical component. I have seen many friendships destroyed when a boy tries to take a step in the romantic direction only to be enraged when he is rejected. But to that I ask, as many girls have: if you are willing to abandon your relationship with someone because they don’t want the same thing, were you really friends in the first place? In my opinion, the answer is most likely no.

This isn’t to say, however, that the friend zone is strictly a male dominated field, because girls are just as bad. And why is that? Because we’re passive aggressive about it. When a girl is interested in a guy she gives the vaguest signals possible and gets angry when they don’t get the hint. We will pine over a guy for extended periods of time (I’m not talking months; I’m talking years) without doing anything. Yet, sometimes you do find a gutsy girl who does take that leap. And sometimes it works out, which is great. But all too often, girls also can get rejected. Trust me, you do NOT want to be around when that happens. Girls will cry, throw tantrums, and go on hour-long rants about how they’ve been “friend zoned.”

And I am here to offer a sober truth. The infamous “friend zone” DOES NOT EXIST. It is not real. It is merely an excuse to cushion the devastating blow of rejection. We are much more inclined to believe that we are valued too highly for our companionship rather than that the person we are interested in does not feel the same way. To be completely truthful, girls do consider their male friends as potential romantic partners. Each and every one of them. And although i can’t speak definitively for our male counterparts, I’d be willing to bet they do too. Therefore, the next time you’re told that you’re “like a brother/sister to me” or “such a good friend” it might just mean that your friend isn’t interested in you that way. And that’s okay. You just have to move on. Don’t hold it against them.

That being said, don’t let the threat of rejection deter you from taking that risk. Because sometimes, just sometimes, it works out.

Consummation and Condemnation

Needless to say, this is a touchy topic (no pun intended…..well maybe a little). And I’ll admit, girls are pretty much the worst to talk to when it comes to sex, and understandably so. Between getting called sluts, whores, prudes, virgins(with an air of superiority), and the newest slur, sorostitutes, women are presented with a damned if you do-damned if you don’t situation. And although this is a definite societal issue which transcends gender, females are as bad as any when it comes to judging other women for their sexual tendencies. We are at a point in modern society which presents a moral dilemma to girls everywhere starting as young as fourteen or fifteen years old. From the time we are young enough to understand about “the birds and the bees” we are told to save ourselves until “we’re ready” or “for someone special” or, depending on your religious views, even until marriage. And for a a little while, maybe a few years if you’re lucky, this recommendation will suffice. Around the time you go to high school, however, your friends and acquaintances are singing an entirely different tune. That conversation which once was met with a resounding “EWWWW!!” is met with question and borderline outrage. The inexperienced girl can get anywhere from a “Good for you. You wait ’til you’re ready.” to a “What are you, some kind of prude?”

We live in a culture that sexualizes music, television, music, basically everything young people love. So it’s understandable that we’ve come to accept sex as a staple of modern society. Yet, particularly in the girl world, sex is met with an unavoidable social stigma despite any emotional or physical precaution taken. Everyone has seen it. It seems that any girl who has sex under the age of 21 is called a slut or an equally offensive name. And are boys met with the same reaction? Of course not. Men are encouraged to sleep around. Sexually promiscuous guys are admired, even revered for having “game”. I’d love to be able to say that it was only men who held this double standard, but women do nothing to stop or dissent common opinion. As any “friend-zoned” “nice guy” will quickly tell you, girls unequivocally chase Casanovas.

So far as I have noticed, college promotes a culture even more sexual than we are used to. As is so astutely labeled in a blog belonging to one of my peers, we have adapted a “hook-up culture.” It is common to be advised not to start or continue a relationship as it deters the full college experience. Campus-focused blogs offer advice and stories about hooking up often more than they do about classes or roommates. More progressive colleges have started to include condom dispensers alongside vending machines on each floor of their residence halls. However, terms like slut and whore are thrown around college campuses more than anywhere else.

Personally, I think everyone should have the freedom to do what they are comfortable with. Girls, if you want to have sex with someone and are confident in your choice to do so, then go for it. For what it’s worth, you have the blessing of a random chick on the internet. However, do not let yourself get pressured into doing something you don’t believe in or don’t want to do. If a guy doesn’t value you with your clothes on, then he’s not worth your time anyway. All I ask is that you respect yourself enough to choose your own adventure. And to guys, it should be no different. I’m sure there are some circumstances, sexual or otherwise, that make you uncomfortable no matter how reluctant you are to admit it. Believe it or not, girls like it more if you don’t sexualize your relationship too quickly. And if you do happen to be with a girl who would like to move at a slower pace, please respect that. Take it from me, there is nothing worse than losing someone you care about because you’re not ready for the kind of relationship they want.

 

Basically, know what you’re comfortable with and stand by it. Respect the choices of other people and don’t pressure them to do something that they’re not ready to do. You don’t have to take advantage of every opportunity you see. Sometimes (I dare even say often) it’s better to take the slow route, no matter what everyone else is doing or saying they’re doing. Sex has existed since the beginning of time and it will exist until the end of time. You will have another opportunity. So make it count.

Personalized Personalities

Hello Everyone! Welcome to Modern Misogynist, your hub for all frustrations female. This blog is intended not to offend, merely to entertain and hopefully resonate with some of you and your girl problems. Agree, disagree, tell me I’m an idiot; All opinions and comments are welcomed. Regardless of your possession of a Y chromosome or two X’s, we all know how confusing girls can be. So let’s get started, shall we?

PERSONALIZED PERSONA

Male or female, we all have many sides to our personalities. Whether you’re at work, at home, or out on the town, you show a different side of you. I like to think of each of us as a jigsaw puzzle of the different sides of our personalities, whose pieces fit together to give us a definition of who we are individually. This is normal.

Women, however, take this personality shift to a whole new level.

Whereas guys may iron their shirt or crack a few jokes to fit in better, girls will take on an entirely new persona. Girls will wear 6-inch heels that blister their feet and act confused when they’re not and laugh at jokes they don’t think are funny just to come off the way they think people want them to. Now, don’t get me wrong. I do it too. Who hasn’t curled their hair or spent a little more time on their makeup to just to impress someone? But this practice can be dangerous. You start dressing a little fancier and people get used to it, so the next time you roll out of bed and throw on a pair of sweats you start to get comments: “Rough night last night?” “What happened to you?” Or worse. You’re pressured into sticking to your $50 jeans and designer shoes just to avoid negativity.

Women, it seems, have an inherent desire to please everyone. So we alter ourselves instead of accepting who we are and letting others do the same. From this we now have the group of female role models preaching about self-acceptance. From Beyonce’s “Flawless” to the Today Show’s “No Makeup Monday,” it seems the next big social movement is an effort to put Maybelline out of business. I in no way have anything against showing off your natural beauty, but I do love my concealer. And is that really so wrong? If you’re born with naturally clear skin or can get a full 8 hours of sleep a night and avoid having the rings of Saturn under your eyes in the morning then more power to you. However, not all of us have that luxury. Makeup and manageable hair and an occasional dress up day can give you a huge confidence boost (as we girls often need). So if you feel like wobbling around in heels all day because they make you feel hot, then you go for it, but don’t forget about the ever-important ponytail and sweatshirt days. Just don’t change who you are and (more importantly) who you want to be to make someone like you. As any sensible woman will tell you, letting yourself get pressured into being something you’re not never puts you in a position to be happy.

So, girls, do what you want. Wear what makes you feel good. Say whatever is on your mind. And guys, pay attention. Girls are who they are whether they’re in sneakers or stilettos. Don’t think something is wrong just because a girl who normally looks like she walked straight out of Vogue decided to pull her high school track sweatshirt out of the closet. Whether you’ve seen it or not, that’s a side of her, and it deserves to be seen just like all of the others.