Psychologist Ethan Kross from the University of Michigan performed a series of experiments to determine the effect of a person’s self talk on their behavior. One of the discoveries he made is that when you talk to yourself, you use the third person instead of your name and also help:

Increase your chances of successfully completing activities
Minimize ruminating on an event after it’s over
Decrease anxiety and depression
Gain perspective
Increase Focus
Better plan on the future
Enhance self-control

In the real world, you have to make self talk looking smooth and regular. Therefore you have to improve self talk and I will give you a few good suggestions:

Try to stop and notice which words and phrases you are using in your internal dialogues
Never think of negative self talk
Choose a couple power phrases that inspire you

The next thing I want to deeply demonstrate these suggestions.

The first suggestion: try to stop and notice which words and phrases you are using in your internal dialogues. The wording seems abstract. It simply explains as a big note card to remind you about what you are thinking about in your mind. For example, you will have an important interview the next day and you thought about it all day long and frustrated about the interview whether you can perform well and accept an offer. You know what is your frustration and just lack of doing something to prevent frustrating. Why not try write a big note card and stick on the wall of your room a week before. The note card keep reminding you about the interview and you will try to prepare for the interview a little bit everyday. When the interview approaches, you will not be that frustrated.

Second suggestion: never think of negative self talk. This means that you should never have negative internal dialogues because the negative internal dialogues make you weak and obstruct your highway. For example, “What a bad day” in the morning makes your whole day worse. You internally and psychologically felt your day was ruined. You should always keep in positive mind.

The last suggestion: choose a couple power phrases that inspire you. This one is my favorite. Talking to yourself with a powerful and inspirational word is very strong. For example, before I did my Ted Talk last Friday, I talk to myself: “Ran, you can crash the talk and make the talk inspirational.” It seems silly but helps me overcome my fearness to audiences and one-button recording machine. Try it before an important event, a big surprise is waiting for you.