Achilles, the most celebrated ancient warrior, was given a choice by his mother: live a short life filled with honor, or live a long, unknown life. His prize was upheld too, 3,000 years later, he is still known. Honor inspires action in the hearts of people and creates heroes. Honor drives people to do great, extraordinary things. The stakes are high, and to die or shed blood for honor is often required. The Trojan war was an entire war waged over the honor of one man being disrespected. Thousands of people fought on both sides for the chance to gain honor.
Honor is an ideal that requires public recognition. An individual cannot bestow honor on themselves. It is a public quality that must be awarded through significant actions. It is a function of reputation, but much more meaningful because a person internally also has to believe they have honor. Both internal and external components of honor are what drive people to act in extraordinary ways. Honor is comprised of integrity, bravery, morality, and reputation. It is these components that drive the individual to do what must be done, no matter what the cost. What causes someone to risk their life, or even die, for honor is because it transcends death. Your honor will live on long after you die.
However, we no longer live in a world of the duel. People do not fight to the death to defend their honor anymore, and it is almost something that is no longer practiced. The invention of anonymity is to blame for this. When you live in a world that you can slip by unnoticed, the emphasis of honor disappears. Honor does not exist in small acts, quiet acts, or secret acts. If no one sees or cares about your actions, it does not matter what you do even if it is morally right if no one sees, and it provides public incentive to strive for honor.
Honor is also not following a prescribed code of ethics. The internal part of honor is as important as the public aspect. If a person simply goes along for what the majority of people are chanting around them, then they lose their integrity and principles. Being honorable is about living your truth. To have principles and stand for what you believe to be right in the face of people who disagree is courageous. It is honorable to hold yourself accountable and to embody your principles in every action that one takes, even if that means making difficult decisions. Often times will have an antenna that receives opinions of other people on what is right and wrong, but this means the individual is susceptible to change their moral ideas and have intellectually inconsistent stances. A person needs to be a critical thinker about the world and the information they are receiving to make the best-informed decisions they can.
If someone does not have concrete stances on their belief, then their actions will fluctuate to whatever is accessible at the moment, which is the result of focusing only on the external forces of honor. This also leads to a toxic race for fame and of indulgement of ambition. Ambition, fame, and power is an enticing drug that often hypnotizes people under their spell in the pursuit of honor. It causes people to be apathetic to others, willing to crush anyone that gets in their way even though they have done nothing to harm the individual. When someone loses the internal aspect of what it means to be honorable, then they succumb to these forces and lose their honor among the people. This is what makes the pursuit of honor so dangerous; it is easy to become the villain when someone is trying to be a hero.
For ancient heroes like Achilles, the honor was everything to them. Honor then was the very essence of the hero’s soul, which is why people were so willing to die for honor. However, today, honor is just a word we use. Honor is not essential to an individual to find purpose in life, and the focus has shifted to living a life of ethics and reviewing your actions internally. Honor is not supposed to be ethical. It is not considered ethical to use violence to defend your reputation, but it is honorable. The honor comes at a high price that not everyone can afford. Even Achilles, the Greek hero who chose honor over a long life, admitted to Odysseus that it was not worth it. It is much better to live the life of an unknown farmer than in pursuit of all the supposed awards of honor. Today, the idea of honor is no longer an intrinsic part of our society. The cost is just too high. So a life of honor, perhaps, means to live a life that is no longer valued.