Topic: paradigm shift in dating since the late twentieth century
Purpose: to explain that dating is different now, and the expectations should not be the same; also that the change is generational
Thesis: Since the late twentieth century, dating has changed. As a result of increasing technology usage, feminism, and pop culture, the symbols, strategies, and expectations of dating have changed, and that’s okay.
Introduction
- Attention grabber
- Story about Kiki’s experience with her mother
- Explain the time period of the shift I am analyzing, 1980s-today
- Thesis
Body
- Symbols
- In dating, symbols are used to announce a relationship status and to show appreciation/love
- In the late twentieth century, people relied on material items such as letterman jackets, class rings, and various pieces of jewelry to symbolize their relationship
- Doing so showed
- A relationship existed
- Appreciation for the significant other
- That both people were unavailable
- Doing so showed
- Today people use social media to symbolize their relationship
- Facebook relationship status “Facebook official”
- Literally announces your relationship status to your friends
- Instagram bios (boyfriend or girlfriend’s’ initials or anniversary date)
- #MCM or #WCW posts
- Other platforms (VSCO, Snapchat, Twitter)
- Facebook relationship status “Facebook official”
- This shift is primarily due to the increase in technology use and the introduction of social media
- In the late twentieth century, people relied on material items such as letterman jackets, class rings, and various pieces of jewelry to symbolize their relationship
- In dating, symbols are used to announce a relationship status and to show appreciation/love
- Strategies
- In dating, people use different methods to meet people, ask people on dates, and to get to know a potential date
- Asking people out
- In the late twentieth century: face to face, or to avoid rejection notes or through a friend
- Today people often ask others out over text because they have more courage behind a screen
- Meeting people
- In the late twentieth century people met people at school, at restaurants, at work, at bars, etc.
- Today, people still meet at those places, but many people also rely on online dating services
- Since Match.com was created in 1995, online dating usage has increased significantly
- 40 million people now use online dating services
- When Tinder was created in 2012 the online dating world became more focused on looks than compatability
- The world accepted this though– about 60% of Americans believe online dating is a good way to meet people
- Getting to know each other
- In the late twentieth century, people often got to know each other over a coffee date, dinner, or even phone calls
- Today, people often get to know each other over texting, Snapchat, or various other messengers
- This shift is primarily due to the creation of online dating services and the increase in technology usage
- Asking people out
- In dating, people use different methods to meet people, ask people on dates, and to get to know a potential date
- Expectations
- When dating, people have expectations about their dates behavior and what the date will amount to
- Dates behavior
- Traditionally, men were intended to ask women out on dates and to pay for dates
- “Don’t go dutch on a date”
- Now, more women ask men on dates
- 65% of men have been asked out by a woman and 91% are supportive of women initiating a date
- Also, women are more supportive of “going Dutch on a date”
- 73% of women don’t expect men to pay
- Traditionally, men were intended to ask women out on dates and to pay for dates
- What the date will amount to
- Traditionally, people dated to marry
- They also dated for entertainment, companionship, and socialization, but the manifest function of dating was marriage
- Now, many people date with other intentions, hence they do not expect to marry every person they date
- Some people today date for the purpose of intimacy
- Especially in college, where hookup culture is prominent
- Some people today date for the purpose of intimacy
- Traditionally, people dated to marry
- Dates behavior
- When dating, people have expectations about their dates behavior and what the date will amount to
Conclusion
- Restate thesis
- Explain significance of the shift
- Although the dating world has changed, this does not mean our love lives are doomed, it just means things are different
- So when your mom questions you about your relationship (or lack thereof) don’t panic, rest assured knowing that things are different now, and you will be alright
Slides
- Gif about nagging parents?
- Photos of a couple in 1980s versus a couple today
- Photo of class rings and letterman jackets
- Examples of Facebook relationship status, and Instagram bios
- Examples of #MCM and #WCW posts
- Love notes
- Example of asking someone out over text
- Chart about online dating sites
- Joke about going dutch on a date
- Photos of people on dates
- Chart saying something about marriage
- Funny gif reassuring the audience that their love lives aren’t doomed