People everywhere are breaking up, just in time for the holidays. And the more couples I see parting ways, the more I notice that the girl always seems more miserable. This raised a few questions in my head.
1) Do boys tend to break up with girls more than the other way around?
Unfortunately, I couldn’t find anything on this really, but if so that could be a possible explanation for my next question.
2) Why are girls seemingly more upset than guys? And why does it also seem to take girls longer to get over the relationship?
There are quite a few different explanations for this, but a few of my favorite can be found in this article. The one I hadn’t thought of that really seemed like a “duh” moment for me is the first: Guys are typically pressured to go out and explore their options by friends much sooner than girls. This can speed up the healing process for them. Also, because they’re afraid of judgement from friends, males will tend to put on a braver face so that it seems like they’re moving on… even if they’re not.
Another thing that I know I have at least thought of is the fact that guys will use a rebound to make themselves feel better and move on, as a writer in the Huffington Post says. Since they can’t cry to their friends or family about it because it would “ruin their macho image”, they decide that they have to move on quickly to avoid seeming like their break up is bothering them (which it, in fact, is).
A theory that was presented to me by a friend that actually makes some sense, though I can’t find any evidence of it, actually relates the speed of moving-on to our primal instincts. Males animals, for example, are destined to just reproduce. Many will move from female to female without even sticking around for the birth of the offspring. Females, on the other hand, are born to nurture, to care. Even female animals that are with a mate that moves to different people will often only stay with that original mate (and will not mate again if that one dies). These are their survival instincts and what keeps the species alive. In the case of break-ups, humans could possibly have the same subconscious instincts.
Is there any evidence of this being possible? Do YOU think it’s possible? I’m not sure, but it would make me feel a little bit better to know that when I’m falling apart, there’s an actual scientific reason why the guy isn’t.