Does Absence Make the Heart Grow Fonder?


As a wee freshman, leaving behind my high school boyfriend was super hard. Water works the night before, face-timing all the time, you get the gist. While we are still happily dating, my mom always says “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” She’s always said that since I was young due to the fact that we would have to spend time apart because my parents have split custody of my brother and I.  Just last weekend I went home to Long Island after a long and brutal bus and train ride (a seven hour ordeal) and when I finally jumped into my boyfriends arms at the train station, I felt a love I had never felt before. We were closer than ever that weekend. It sparked the question, does absence really make the heart grow fonder?

I found an article in which scientists share their opinions on the question. Sure enough, they do believe absence indeed makes the heart grow fonder. I don’t doubt it either! Some of what they mentioned included how long distance relationships have to communicate on a deeper level to keep the relationship lively and can’t be physical or sexual. This means a lot about discussing future plans, trust, and topics along those lines. It brings the couple together in a deeper way and if they have that trust, they can thrive in their current relationship.

They also talk about how technology is the reason why so many long distance couples can pursue their relationships. Go back 20 or 30 years and that would seem absolutely ludicrous. Cell phones were a big step for relationships, but now with iPhones, its hard to NOT be able to communicate. My boyfriend and I will always be texting or talking on the phone (which I prefer) and it really never seems so bad regardless of the fact that we are in other states. The article says that there is a psychological closeness that comes along with being apart. I would agree with that. It has made my boyfriend and I learn to trust each other and overcome the challenge of being apart.

So in conclusion and based on scientific data, I would say “yes”, absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder. What do you guys think? Is anyone else in a long distance relationship here with tips for me/everyone else?

img_7914Thats us at prom hehe


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