Going into college I was single and ready to mingle. I was thrown into a brand new environment with fresh, different faces and exhilarating new opportunities. But most importantly, I had absolutely no ties back home. Except for my dog and I guess my family too. Anyways, I would constantly ask myself: “Why would anyone want to go into college still in a relationship from high school?” It was this thought that prompted me to write this blog post. I thought to myself what are the stats behind the success of high school relationships throughout college?
Does long distance work?
We have all heard the saying “distance makes the heart grow fonder”, but does it really? Statistically speaking there are 32.5% reported cases of long distance relationships in college. This statistic makes it seem as though long distance relationships are very common; however, we must also consider the success rate of these relationships. On average, 40% of long distance relationships do not last. For these 40%, if it’s not meant to be it takes about 4.5 months for the relationship to end. This means almost half of long distance relationships end, so unfortunately the odds are not in your favor.
How does a relationship effect your college performance?
While researching this topic, I became interested in how being in a relationship effects a student’s academic performance. According to a study more students are probable to skip class if they are in a romantic relationship. This is supposedly due to the fact that they would skip class in place of being able to see their significant other. This could or could not be an example of correlation and causation. This is could be causation because though you could be skipping class to see your significant other; however, your absences could be due to a lack of time devoted to homework. If you are in a relationship you could be spending time going on dates which leads to you skipping class to make up the time and work on your missed assignments. In this situation, the missed assignments would be the third variable.
Should you stay with your significant other going into college?
Going into college can be scary. You most likely will know absolutely no one, be in an unfamiliar place, and very far away from the comfort of your home. It’s easy to cling onto things and people that are accustomed to you. However, should this justify you staying with your significant other entering college? I was able to find a quiz on the trust worthy site of Cosmopolitan; however, I believe you should trust your intuition. My mom has always told me to “trust your gut” no matter how big or small the situation is. John Coates conducted a research study at Cambridge University, testing this common saying which resulted in positive feedback. It turns out that trusting our gut has been proven to be highly effective in successful outcomes.
So in terms of staying in your high school relationship, the choice is completely up to you. Look at the stats, consider the effects, and most importantly, trust your gut!