If someone asks you what the best week of your life was like, many have to stop and ponder, sorting through the millions of memories that sprout in their mind. I’m a little different. I can tell you that the week of July 14-21, 2013 was, by far and away, the best week of my life. I went to Young Life camp in Saranac, New York. This camp was life-changing, breath-taking, and totally fun. I did things I had never done in my life before, I conquered one of my major fears, and I learned about the big guy upstairs who saved me.
One of my biggest fears is heights. I’m okay if I don’t look down, but as soon as I do, I’m sent into a mini panic attack. Unfortunately for me, one of the activities scheduled for us was a ropes course. The staff had lined the tree tops with ropes and harnesses and your goal was to walk on all the ropes without falling, trying to make it to the end.
I looked at my friend who was behind me in line. “Are you nervous at all?”
She looked back at me and smiled. “Heck no! I’m so excited!”
“Well, how strong are those harnesses do you think? Will they break?”
My friend laughed and squeezed my hand for comfort. “I promise Maddi, you’ll be alright. You’re going to love it!” Of course she ended up being right, I loved it! There were multiple steps to the ropes course, starting with a wall of ropes that you had to climb across. After each section of ropes you arrived at a platform where a staff member sat waiting for you.
“You did so well! The first time I did that section I fell and just dangled there while the other staff members laughed at me,” one staff guy had said when I reached his platform, making fun of himself. “I’m so glad you’re here at camp! Are you having fun? What’s been your favorite part so far?” At almost every platform, a staff member would say something along those lines. They would always say that they were happy I was there, that they wanted me there. I had never felt more welcomed. Even though I know they said it to every camper, it was so very sincere and it made me feel happy to be there. It was such a great moment.
At the end of the course, in order to get down, you had to jump from the safe platform up in the tree, free fall, and try and grab on to the bar that was swinging out in the open. If I do say so myself, I was taking the whole ropes course like a champ. I was joking around with the staff and my friends and I was having so much fun. This last jump, however, seemed to be pushing it. Couldn’t they just gently lower me to the ground? Did I have to free fall?
Looking from the edge of the platform to the ground was terrifying. We were so far up! “Okay, what’s your name sweetie?” The guy who was probably a million feet below me (okay maybe I’m being a little bit dramatic) called up to me.
“My name’s Maddi,” I shakily answer, my arms firmly wrapped around the center tree of the platform.
“It’s nice to meet you Maddi! My name’s Jake and I’m going to be belaying you okay? You’re in safe hands, I promise. Lowering you to the ground will be no heavier than a sack of flour because the poIe behind me will be doing all of the work, okay? You will not fall. Now I need you to step forward and put your left foot on the white line in front of you and your right foot slightly behind your left, can you do that for me?”
I did as Jake had asked and looked over the edge at the ground. The edges of my vision seemed a little fuzzy and I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I stepped back for a minute and took a deep breathe. “Hey Jake, is it okay if I put my right foot in front instead of my left?”
I heard laughter from Jake, my friends, and my leaders standing below me. “You can stand however is comfortable for you. I have you either way.”
I took another deep breath and stepped up to the line a second time. This time I knew my vision was fuzzy. I couldn’t see the bar in front of me, it was like it had disappeared. Then I made eye contact with Angie, my Young Life leader. She saw the look of panic in my eyes and began encouraging me, shouting out her love and cheering me on. Soon my friends, the staff, and even other campers whom I had never even met were shouting for me. It was a remarkable experience. I drew on the strength they were giving me and I launched myself into the air. It seemed like I was falling for both a nanosecond and an eternity. I finally felt the cool metal bar beneath my hands and I grabbed on for dear life. I had done it. Not only did I jump, but I caught the bar! Cheers erupted from below me and I started laughing as Jake gently lowered me to the ground. I was suddenly engulfed in hugs.
The ropes course was both a conquered fear and a lesson. I conquered my fear of heights, but I soon learned that I couldn’t do it by myself. I needed the help from my friends and more importantly, from God. It was a great reminder that I can’t do anything by myself and if I try I will be overwhelmed with fear, stress, anxiety, and doubts. Giving up not only my troubles but my life to God shows that He is the true conqueror. He conquers my biggest fears and showers me with love and promises. It was hidden lesson that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.
The lesson in and of itself is pretty simple to grasp, but actually following through with it is much more difficult. There have been many times since then that I have tried to shoulder everything. I wanted to control everything, to be a big girl and handle my own problems. Every single time I do this, I fail. Every. Single. Time.
One such instance happened during one week of the fall semester of college. It was one of the busiest weeks I’ve had so far. I had three exams, two papers due, multiple meetings to attend, different errands to run, bills to pay with money that I didn’t have, and so very little time. During that week, I had pushed God aside. I didn’t attend church, do my devotions, or even pray because I simply felt that it was a waste of time that I could have spent getting work done. Boy, did God get me good.
By the middle of the week, I was running out of steam and positivity. I was exhausted because I had hardly been sleeping and I was grumpy because of it. Eventually I broke down. I cried my little heart out until I could cry no more. I called my best friend then and broke down for a second time within an hour. I told her that I was so stressed and overwhelmed and I simply couldn’t do college anymore. Right away she asked if I had been praying about it.
“Of course!” I lied. “I just don’t think He’s listening right now.” I made up an excuse to cover for the guilty feeling of pushing God aside, which was probably the worst thing I could have done. The plus side about this though, is that I’m the world’s worst liar, and my friend knows it. She called me out on it right away; holding me accountable the way a friend in Chirst is supposed to.
“I know you’re completely drowning in work right now and I know you are so stressed out, but I think this is the time when you really need to bury yourself in God. You’re trying to carry everything yourself and you can’t do it. Give everything to God and He will help you through it.” I felt as if I had lost, I had failed. I wasn’t good enough to succeed in a simple thing such as school. I felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders and I had nowhere else to turn. I heard my friend’s advice that night and decided to listen to her. I prayed and I read my bible and I prayed some more that night. What did I have to lose?
I’m sure you’re expecting some big miracle to occur after I submerged myself in God’s Word, but that’s not what happened. God works step by step according to His plan, not when it’s convenient for you. I did get something, though: understanding. I realized that I had tried to take on the world and I lost entirely. I didn’t even stand a chance. I was set up for a loss when I had begun without God, and I would continue to lose if I lived my life for myself. This understanding brought on hope. I know that seems like the smallest thing, but it was hope that I so desperately needed. Hope to pass my tests and do well in school. Hope to pay my bills and find the money I needed somewhere. Hope that everything will get better and I can do it.
I did, in fact, survive that horrific week. Over the weekend I received a call from Bursar saying that they had overcharged me and I was going to be refunded some money, solving my money crisis. I also received a letter from my youth leader back home saying she was thinking about me and praying for me. My mom had called me sending her love and I got good test scores back on my exams. Little by little, I gave my worries to God, and little by little He kept proving just what He’s capable of and the things He can overcome. The way of God is a mystery, but boy does He show up when I need Him the most and reminds me just how loved I am! I was transported back to the ropes course over the summer and the lesson I had learned and just how true that was.
It is a struggle every day to trust in God, and by far the hardest thing I have ever done. I still find myself not wanting to give up my control or I’ll find myself putting things in front of Him, like my school work. Each time I do that, I become stressed, frustrated and just low. Being real with myself about what I’m doing and talking it out with a friend is extremely hard, especially when the friend calls you out on the things you do that you shouldn’t be doing. It’s hard to face the reality of a situation, but once you do, new light will shine and your eyes will be opened to the wonders of our God. It’s never easy and it will never be easy, especially in a society that is preaching the exact opposite of following God. I have been persecuted, judged, and laughed at for my beliefs, but the rewards, however, are worth every little bit of the struggle, and I know I’m not in this alone. I have the King of kings, the Prince of peace, my guide, my refuge, my strength, and most importantly, my friend by my side throughout everything.