By Abigail Parnell
Most family law disputes swiftly reach a resolution.[1] However, literature “suggests that there is a significant subset of protracted family law conflicts that do not resolve because one or sometimes both parties do not want a resolution.”[2] These parties are often described as having a “high-conflict personality.”[3] High-conflict personalities seem to be characterized by an attachment to conflict, a belief of infallibility, and an ongoing sense of crisis.[4] Prolonged or recurrent litigation resulting from these traits has devastating effects in family law cases, especially on those involving children.[5] Moreover, legal practitioners should consider implementing alternative dispute resolution (ADR) techniques in disputes involving high-conflict personalities to help the parties engage in problem-solving for the benefit their children. While ADR may seem like a simple solution, most legal practitioners are ill-equipped to recognize high-conflict personalities in the first place.[6] High conflict personalities tend to have specific traits present that once identified can assist practitioners in moving away from litigation and towards ADR. In addition, parent coordination has proven to be an effective ADR method for resolving disputes involving high conflict personalities.
High-conflict personality (“HCP”) is a descriptive rather than a diagnostic term that refers to the traits frequently seen in parties determined on escalating litigation.[7] An HCP typically demonstrates a pattern of behavior that includes cognitive distortion, blaming others, all-or-nothing thinking, and extreme behaviors.[8] Furthermore, an HCP is often associated with the Cluster B personality disorders: narcissistic, borderline, antisocial, and histrionic.[9] “Cluster B personality disorders are characterized by dramatic, overly emotional or unpredictable thinking or behavior.”[10] If legal practitioners are able to identify these behaviors, they will be better equipped to determine the best mode of conflict resolution (whether litigation or ADR).
One relatively new but proven method of ADR is called “parenting coordination.”[11] Parenting coordination is defined as:
“[A] child-focused alternative dispute resolution process in which a mental health or legal professional with mediation training and experience assists high conflict parents to implement their parenting plan by facilitating the resolution of their disputes in a timely manner, educating parents about children’s needs, and with prior approval of the parties and/or the court-making decisions within the scope of the court order or appointment contract.”[12]
Parenting coordination is successful in disputes involving an HCP because it involves a non-adversarial approach implemented by a mental health professional familiar with the psychology of high-conflict personalities.[13] In fact, one study found that parenting coordination resulted in a 75% decrease in child-related court filings.[14]
Moreover, the traditional adversarial court system frequently yields unhealthy outcomes in disputes involving an HCP.[15] As such, legal practitioners should learn the identifying characteristics of an HCP to provide more effective services. Parenting coordination is one ADR method designed with the resources to address an HCP.[16] Thus, one effective solution for high-conflict family law disputes would be for jurisdictions to provide education on HCPs along with statutory parenting coordination as an ADR method.
[1] Esther Rosenfeld & Michelle Oberman, Becoming a Family Lawyer, Confronting the Challenge of the High-Conflict Personality in Family Court, 52 Fam. L.Q. 79, 81 (2020).
[2] Id.
[3] Id.
[4] Id. at 94-96.
[5] Jessica J. Sauer, Mediating Child Custody Disputes for High Conflict Couples: Structuring Mediation to Accommodate the Needs & Desires of Litigious Parents, 7 Pepp. Disp. Resol. L.J. 501 (2007).
[6] Emily Labatut, The Effects of Parental Narcissstic Personality Disorder on Families and How to Defend “Invisible Victims” of Abuse in Family Court, 48 Southeastern L. Rev. 225, 226 (2021).
[7] Esther Rosenfeld & Michelle Oberman, supra note 1 at 86.
[8] Bill Eddy, Who are High Conflict People?, High Conflict Institute (May 15, 2019), https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/hci-articles/who-are-high-conflict-people.
[9] Emily Labatut, supra note 6, at 228.
[10] Personality Disorders, Mayo Clinic, https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/personality-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20354463 (last visited Dec. 7, 2021).
[11] Sophie B. Mashburn, “Throwing the Baby Out with the Bathwater”: Parenting Coordination and Pennsylvania’s Decision to Eliminate Its Use, 2015 J. Dis. Res. 191 (2015).
[12] The Assoc. of Family and Conciliation Courts Task Force on Parenting Coordination, Guidelines For Parenting Coordination, 44 FAM. CT. REV. 164, 165 (2006).
[13] Sophie B. Mashburn, supra note 11 at 199.
[14] Id.
[15] Esther Rosenfeld & Michelle Oberman, supra note 1 at 81.
[16] Sophie B. Mashburn, supra note 11 at 194.