For generations upon generations, there has been bullying. Kids enter school and soon enough they begin to fall into their place within the school’s social hierarchy. This unspoken hierarchy includes the most popular kids and the most isolated, and everyone else in between. The smallest differences in behavior or appearance can be enough to initiate a social isolation that follows one through their schooling. Typically, the lower one falls in this social hierarchy, the more people will consciously and unconsciously distance themselves from them. While few kids are clear bullies directly targeting specific kids, there are many more bystanders who keep their distance and do not make strong enough efforts to make these kids included and accepted among their peers.
Researchers have identified three normative social processes that may help explain how this unspoken hierarchy begins to form in such young, well-meaning kids. These social processes include descriptive norms, injunctive norms, and norm salience. In a school setting, descriptive norms are what a child perceives as typical behavior at their school. Injunctive norms are how that child is expected to behave at school, and what will happen to them when they do or don’t comply. Norm salience refers to the extent in which the norms are carried out at their school (Gruman et al., 2017). When examining a school’s social hierarchy, and the subsequent bullying that comes with it, we begin to see how these social processes may take form in schools.
When starting out in school, children become exposed to an entirely different world that they were once unaware of from the bubble of their homes. They are shown all sorts of different kinds of people and situations. During this time, they are also learning and absorbing the new information now presented to them. This is when we start to see the social processes take form. When put in a classroom full of kids their own age, a child begins to see similarities and differences between their peers. They see how the majority of their classmates look and behave, and they also begin to take note of the individuals who deviate from this norm. When a child sees one of these children who are different than the majority being left out, they then learn that it is bad to have those differences. They also begin to learn how people treat those who are different. Once they repeatedly observe that the children with differences get treated less favorably, this is when they begin to distance themselves as they don’t want to be associated with the kids who are different. By making these realizations and acting in their own self-interest, the social hierarchy gets strengthened. This child may not want to be a bully themself, but they also don’t want to face the same treatment as the children who are different.
Schools are notoriously tough places to be for those who fall outside of the social norms. The normative social processes of descriptive norms, injunctive norms, and norm salience help to shed light on how such young children can unintentionally create a toxic learning environment for some of the other children. While these social processes are human nature within social situations like schools, adults can be more informed of these processes happening within our children in order to lead them in the right direction on how to best handle the new information they are learning in kind and empathetic ways.
Reference:
Gruman, J.A. Schneider, F.W. & Coutts, L.A. (2017). Applied Social Psychology: Understanding and Addressing Social and Practical Problems. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage