As a girl, I have noticed there are quite a few misleading stereotypes about what girls want. For some reason guys have this idea in their minds that all girls want a steady relationship, enjoy watching nothing but romance movies, and that they want their boyfriend to constantly act romantically.
What? I can’t be the only girl out there that is baffled by this stereotype of women right? For you guys out there that believe this is what all girls are like, you are in for a rude awakening.
I find it highly interesting that guys, for whatever reason, think all girls only want a steady relationship. I don’t know about the rest of you women out there, but as far as the girls I know go, this is not at all true. Most of the girls that I know prefer to figure out who they are as a person before getting involved in a serious relationship. Sure, if a relationship just happens to form, they will absolutely jump at the opportunity, but they aren’t out there looking for the man they plan on marrying at the age of 19. The whole point of college from a social standpoint is to meet new people. Having a boyfriend can often cause issues when it comes to meeting new people because the girl doesn’t want her boyfriend to feel threatened or jealous.
Not all girls want a relationship, some girls just want to focus on themselves.
As for the romantic movies, yes we girls do enjoy our fair share of romance, so touché. However, that being said, I know plenty of girls who prefer horror or action movies. Yes chick flicks are nice and all, but we don’t actually expect you to sit through The Notebook with us(though I suggest it, it’s a good time). We have our girlfriends to watch that stuff with. You want to watch The Grudge? Sure why not(just don’t expect me to not be terrified during it)? You want to watch Wolverine? Okay, no big deal, I’m sure it’s a great movie (which it totally is). We don’t always expect you to watch romance, so stop worrying.
This last point truly baffles me. My boyfriend and I recently had an argument about this particular point because he felt pressured to be a romantic too often. I think guys forget that we like them for their goofy habits, their cute but awkward antics, and their laid-back manner. Are there certain occasions when we do expect some romance? Of course (cough cough Valentine’s Day cough cough)! That being said, we fell in love with you for who you were before we began dating. The whole point of a relationship is to be comfortable being yourself with your significant other. Don’t feel pressured to be romantic all the time, that stuff gets old real fast. We would much rather you goofing around with us then you trying to act proper all the time.
Hopefully this post has helped to clear up these stereotypes that men have of women. As I have said before, be yourself because that is what we want to see, not some planned and perfected version of a person you think we want to be with.
It’s funny that you would write a post about this because I was just thinking about this topic not too long ago! I’m probably the least romantic person you will ever meet. I hate being cuddly, I hate romance movies, and, above all, I hate cheesiness. So it always disgusts me when guys think they can pick girls up with sweet romance, but… nope! That’s just a stereotype! Also, I think that if someone thinks their boyfriend/girlfriend is obstructing them from going out and meeting new people, that is definitely a red flag. Perhaps in a situation as such, breaking up would be the best option. Having a significant other should not be a burden–it should be a freedom. I think a lot of people have the tendency to try to salvage or hang onto a relationship just because they’ve been together for a long time, but they don’t realize how unhealthy and detrimental that can be.
As a person who was just broken up with over a phone call this week, I think you make a great point on focusing on yourself. That is my plan from here on out and I think pointing out how this is a stereotype is a great way to show people that this is not all girls want from life.
I could not agree more with this post. As much as I would love to have someone who is always there for me and I can call at a moment’s notice, that’s what I have friends for right? It isn’t always about having a guy in your life and his attention, but wanting to be with that person that is more important.