As a developing global manager there may come a point where you have an opportunity to work abroad. I have worked and do work with many senior managers that have lived and worked throughout the world. They have all encouraged me to take this opportunity if it arises but to be careful and plan for the family. A few years ago an opportunity presented itself.
I was working and living in west Michigan at the time and was approached by my director about being relocated to the Netherlands to lead global engineering standardization projects centrally. My wife and I were both very excited about the opportunity. We live near Holland Michigan and much of her family are of Dutch descent. We started learning Dutch and investigating the culture to see how our family would have to adjust to live there.
While doing business in another country or with people from another country we think about the cultural differences between our home country and the other country. We use tools like Hoefstede Dimensions (hofstede-insights.com, 2020).
Netherlands (blue) vs U.S.A (purple)
It is easy to see and understand academically that the differences between the U.S. and Netherlands would pose certain challenges in business. For instance the Dutch and the U.S. have a big gap in the masculinity dimension. The Dutch are much more likely to do something to enjoy it rather than to be the best at it, and Long term orientation of Dutch culture vs U.S. culture could lead to different priorities between coworkers or conflict on teams.
However, being fully immersed in the culture and society is a very different proposition than just working with someone from a different culture. As we started to explore and plan a potential expat assignment my wife and I learned to appreciate the Dutch in a much different way.
As my wife began learning dutch and exploring international schools for the kids, I began looking at housing and transportation. In Michigan we have a house that is 3200 square feet (297 sqare meters) including the finished basement but not including the attached two car garage and the 3.6 acres of yard. However, what I found was that in Breda, NL we would be able to get an apartment of 80-100 square meters (861-1061 square feet) in the neighborhood near the international school in the same budget. It would have probably have 1 parking spot and no yard but possibly a garden on a porch. It most likely would not have an oven in the kitchen and would only have room for a small refrigerator rather than the tremendous one we were used to stocking. (not to mention two freezers full of frozen foods, meat, and wild game). We went to Ikea on our visit to the Netherlands to plan the trip and this was an eye opener for my wife.
Example of kitchens we saw at Ikea and in appartments in Breda, NL
(Ikea.com, 2020)
While on the trip to Breda to explore, my wife visited the school and the grocery store which was oddly one of her favorite stores here in Michigan, and she found both to be reasonable to walk to and from and simple to communicate though her Dutch was limited. The teachers at the school said that many expats had trouble making friends outside of work because while the Dutch people are very friendly and open they do not typically form deep relationships with outsiders. To help with this we visited a church and talked to other families in the area. Some of the people we talked to said very plainly that they thought it would be best for us to find an English-speaking church for expats rather than come to a Dutch church and learn the language. At first, I thought they were saying we were not welcome but as we talked it became clear that they were just stating the logical conclusion they had come to and did not mean it personally. While I had been to the Netherlands several times for work and worked regularly with Dutch coworkers and project teams, this was the first time that the very direct communication of the Dutch struck home for me as more than just constructive debate when trying to make a collective decision. In this case they knew we were not asking their advice or looking for help on a collective decision, but they felt obligated to share their thoughts anyway. My impression was, that they considered it to be important to share their thoughts constructively and did not consider that it could be taken as offensive. I intentionally did not take it as offensive because of my work experience, though I think in the U.S. a similar situation would have been taken as offensive.
Expatica.com says, “The Dutch directness in the communication with foreigners regularly causes misunderstandings (Breukel, 2020).” They go on to say that the Dutch may not trust someone speaking very politely for fear that they are trying to hide something. I have found this too when I was going out of my way to be polite. Had we moved to the Netherlands I expect one result is that I would be more blunt in my social dealings as well as work.
If we had relocated our kids would have learned to ride bikes to school, and travel on trains more frequently, we would have had to get rid of much of the “stuff” we fill our houses with as Americans, and learn to live much more efficiently in such a small apartment. We would have seen new sites, met new people, and experienced parts of Europe usually reserved for the wealthy traveler from the U.S. We decided we would accept an offer with some negotiation on housing, transportation, and schooling for the kids.
In the end, the company was re-organized and this offer disappeared. Although we never actually moved to the Netherlands the exercise of trying to fit my world into another culture was eye opening and helped me to think very differently about the many people I work with globally every day. I may or may not take an expat assignment if it comes up again, but I would certainly recommend to anyone to consider it seriously if the opportunity. The simple act of trying on a different culture to see how it fits can awaken you to things you never new about yourself or your own culture.
References
Breukel, E. (2020, October 14th). Netherlands – A guide to Dutch etiquette. Retrieved from Expatica.com: https://www.expatica.com/nl/living/integration/dutch-etiquette-101736/
hofstede-insights.com. (2020). Compare Countries Netherlands and the U.S.A. Retrieved from www.hofstede-insights.com: https://www.hofstede-insights.com/country-comparison/the-netherlands,the-usa/