In addition to my group’s deliberation and one other, I attended a deliberation right before spring break on March 5, 2020, called “Let’s Not Beat Around the Bush: How Can We Fight Stereotypes in Porn?”. Given such an interesting and taboo topic, the turnout for the deliberation was extremely high, and the room was almost full to the brim with attendees. The primary topic of discussion was focused on breaking down the stigmas surrounding sex workers, and how we can develop a healthier societal relationship with sex in general.
Heading into the deliberation, I was quite wary with how the conversation would go. The issue itself incites a wide variety of opinions and experiences for college students, and I was not sure which direction the discussion would take. However, the moderators ended up doing an excellent job providing a safe space where participants felt they could honestly speak their minds and share their opinions on the matter. The majority of the discussion came from group members in the large setting, and rather than dividing up into smaller groups and approaches, the entire room spoke and listened together. Despite a large number of participants and relatively tight quarters, the moderators still led a well-run deliberation with excellent follow-up questions that continued the conversation as one topic began to die out and lead to another.
One major topic of discussion that I was not expecting (given the title of the deliberation) was the effectiveness of sex education. Having come from a fairly comprehensive sex education program in my middle and high school, I was shocked to hear the drastically different and negative experiences of other students. This is likely due to me being an out-of-state student coming from Northern Virginia, but nevertheless, I was surprised to hear how little information other students’ schools were able to provide to their students. Those years of school are pivotal to a person’s sexual maturity and development, and hearing that essentially zero information about contraceptives and sexually transmitted diseases was shared with some of my peers is incredibly disappointing. This portion of the discussion was the most informative for me, and though I was expecting a more porn-heavy conversation, the topic of sex education was very enlightening and is inherently a root cause of the sexual stigma in our country. Not teaching students about safe sex practices and healthy relationships does a large disservice to our generation of young adults. Ultimately, the consensus was that the first step in addressing missteps in sexual awareness and unnecessary stereotypes is fixing the issues and inconsistencies in sex education programs in our schools.
The three approaches that the moderators had us discuss were proposing reform for the current sexual education curricula in our schools, possible legislation towards eliminating stereotypes that come from the pornography industry, and a proposal to change women’s hypersexualization in the media. I felt that most of the success came from the first and third approaches, where I felt the group had dynamic dialogue and a conversation that seemed to make progress. On the other hand, the approach about legislation divided the group a bit regarding the unionization of the porn industry and fear of involving the government more in these workers’ lives.
Overall, I was very pleased with the facilitation of the deliberation, and I must say it was much smoother and more productive than I expected it to be. Even when there were certain objections and disagreements, I felt that the attendees practiced high levels of maturity in their dialogue. I thoroughly enjoyed hearing the impassioned opinions of my peers, and I left the deliberation feeling optimistic about the dedication some of my classmates had towards ensuring healthy conversations concerning sexuality in the future and working to eradicate the stigmas that pervade our current society. For a topic so taboo, I felt as if I were receiving a plethora of new information and opinion that I had never been exposed to, and it was great to open my eyes to a subject that is often hidden under the rug in many households and in public conversation. It alleviated some of my discomfort towards the topic and made me more confident as an individual concerning my knowledge of the subject. Kudos to the moderating group for tackling a topic that takes a significant amount of bravery! They did an incredible job keeping the discussion light and involved, while also making sure everyone’s voices were heard if they wanted to speak. It was a great way to leave campus heading into the never-ending spring break we have now!