Anxiety is a normal feeling for a person to experience, and everyone will experience it at one point or another. People can feel nervous or anxious about a variety of things like interpersonal relationships, work, a test and any problem whether big or small can cause anxiety. It becomes a problem when these anxieties consume us and interfere with our ability to complete normal tasks. This is known as an anxiety disorder. These disorders have many types including social anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), an overall generalized anxiety disorder or can take shape in a particular phobia.
My cousin is a Marine who had fought in Afghanistan for four consecutive tours. Before going overseas to fight for our country, he was your typical 20-year-old young man with an easy-going, wherever-the-wind-takes-me, relaxed kind of personality. After his second tour my family realized something was different about Brandon. He became a lot more reserved and jumpy at the littlest things. He would worry about whether his car was completely full of gas; if there was half a tank he would panic and be afraid he would not reach his destination and he would be stranded in downtown Savannah.
We knew as a family it was not uncommon for military personnel to suffer from PTSD given their circumstances. However, nothing could have prepared us for his return from his final tour in Afghanistan.
Brandon was very quiet about what he had seen and experienced over seas. But in his letters home he wrote of terrible things like seeing his best friend get killed while standing right next to him, seeing innocent people hurt and killed, the unimaginable list goes on and on. The war definitely took a heavy toll on him and he constantly was reliving the experiences through nightmares and flashbacks. He was unable to sleep and became detached from his family and girlfriend. He began experiencing anxiety’s ranging from not having the right cereal to thinking the mailman was attacking the house when he delivered the mail through the slot. He was anxious about everything. He tried to get back to school after sometime and that proved more detrimental when exams came around. He was not the guy our family knew.
Since then, he has been more relaxed and is learning to cope with PTSD. It does not consume his entire life nor define him; it is just a part of him. We have all learned to recognize the symptoms and be understanding and not terrified when and if he has an episode. He fought for our country and for him to have seen the horrific things he saw on a daily basis, there is no question as to why he suffers the way he does.