Monthly Archives: January 2023

Secure Your Own Mask First

When you fly on an airplane there is always a safety speech before takeoff.  And the thing that always sticks with me is, “Please secure your own mask before assisting others.”

That one sentence hit home this weekend.  My parents needed my help.  My husband wasn’t feeling well.  My chonky cat was sick.  And I was limping around on crutches trying to help everyone except myself.

I pushed myself over the weekend.  I did more than I should have. My bad leg got a bit more “physical therapy” than was appropriate.  And I was very aware of that.  But I didn’t do more than I could handle.  I could have tried to do some cleaning at my parents’ house, but decided I wasn’t able.  I should have cooked myself some dinner on Sunday night, but ate cereal instead.  My parents would have liked me to stay longer, but I came home to give my cat antibiotics and make it to physical therapy this morning.  On a weekend when I was busy helping everyone else, I also made sure to take care of myself, at least to some extent.

The “secure your own mask” bit also hit close to home in a different way over the holidays.  It seems like every charity I’ve ever donated to was reaching out for an end of year contribution.  And I wanted to assist others.  But the cost of groceries and heating is making life challenging financially.  So rather than stretching myself to assist others as much as I would have liked, I smiled, politely said no, and proceeded with securing my own financial mask.  It won’t be this way every year.  And it’s ok to say no to charities if you’re not feeling particularly financially secure yourself.

I am hopeful that things will turn a corner for me soon.  I have survived a particularly challenging January.  But it’s only because I secured my own mask first.  Now I can proceed with assisting others.

 

Asking for Help

I’ve always been rather fiercely independent.  I don’t like to ask for help.  But sometimes it is necessary.  I’ve learned a whole lot about that over the last few days.  On Friday I was limping around the office as my left knee had been hurting a bit all week. But as I was going up the stairs to heat my lunch Friday afternoon, my knee decided it had had quite enough and gave a big pop.  And suddenly I was no longer able to put any weight on my left leg.  I’m enormously grateful to the students who helped me get back down the stairs and to my office.  I won’t know until after some more physical therapy how long this is going to take to heal.  But I do know that I’m going to have to ask for help more often than normal over the next several weeks.  And asking for help is ok.  Everyone has to do it at one time or another.

Most people struggle with money issues from time to time throughout their lives.  And it’s ok to ask for help with this, too.  We aren’t born knowing everything there is to know about money.  It’s a complicated topic!  But there are a lot of resources available to help you decipher all of this.  You can find a basic list here.  For current Penn State students, you can find self-study units on a variety of financial topics at https://financialliteracy.psu.edu/self-study-modules/.  If you want to find more information or schedule an appointment with a financial coach, you can do that at Penn State’s Sokolov-Miller Family Financial and Life Skills Center.  Current and former law students at Penn State Law also have an additional resource available through the Financial Education tools offered by AccessLex Institute.  Through this website you can access an online financial literacy curriculum, links to available webinars, and you can even schedule a call with an Accredited Financial Counselor.

I remember a time not so long ago that all of these resources didn’t exist.  I used to spend my time combing the internet for resources students could use to access financial assistance.  And I’m sure that is how my passion for financial literacy education began.  But things are much easier now.  Financial education resources abound.  And if you can’t find guidance on the topic you need assistance with, just let me know.  It’s ok to ask for help! Everyone needs to from time to time.

Protection from the Unexpected Left Turn

Sometimes life takes a left turn.  Your perfectly well-laid plans go off the rails. Something that you weren’t at all prepared for happens when least expected.  This can be a good left turn, or a bad left turn.  It can be big or it can be small.  My favorite small, good left turn is when you reach into the pocket of a jacket you haven’t worn in a while and you find a twenty dollar bill.  A small, bad left turn happened to me last week when a mercifully mild case of Covid derailed my plan to return to the office after the holidays.  I’ve had every vaccine and booster available.  I had avoided Covid successfully for nearly three years.  But my number finally came up and I took my turn with the virus that continues to have its grip on the world.

It’s truly impossible to prepare for every eventuality.  Life is going to happen and you never know how it’s going to play out.  But you can do some things to make sure you are ready for those left turns.  For the small things the best thing you can do for yourself is to have an emergency fund—a savings account that you don’t normally touch so you have a place to turn in case of the unexpected.  This is the place to turn in case of the unexpected car repair, the surprise medical bill, or the emergency trip home to see a sick relative.  This is NOT the place to turn when the new iPhone becomes available, or you want to travel for spring break.  In a perfect world everyone would have an emergency fund with three to six months of living expenses.  But this world is not perfect and money doesn’t grow on trees, so slowly building your way up to a $1,000 emergency fund is a solid way to start.

But what about those bigger surprises?  That’s what insurance is all about.  At a very minimum everyone should insurance on their home and their person.  But if you own something that would cost more than your emergency fund to replace, it’s likely worth insuring.  Let’s start with the obvious one.  Healthcare in the United States is of outstanding quality.  But it is also ridiculously expensive.  Health insurance makes that more manageable.  Rather than paying full price every time you have a medical expense, you pay a regular premium to the insurance company, then in return the insurance pays most of your medical bills (minus a designated co-pay/co-insurance amount).  Nobody ever plans to have a major injury or illness.  But trying to get through one without the assistance of health insurance could be financially disastrous.

And now that you have your person insured, it’s important to cover your belongings as well.  If you own a home it’s fairly obvious that you should insure the property to protect it from fire, falling trees, and other unexpected life events.  But renters also should make sure they carry insurance.  A fire can hit an apartment building as easily as a house, and if you don’t have renter’s insurance, you may find that you don’t have any way to replace your belongings if they are destroyed.  Homeowner’s insurance covers the building and belongings.  Renter’s insurance covers only the belongings.  Some students may find that they are covered by their parents’ homeowner policies.  But if you don’t have other coverage, it’s worth finding a renter’s policy to make sure you don’t unexpectedly need to come up with enough money to replace everything you own.

The insurance conversation could go on and on.  Cars, vacations, concert tickets, jewelry, RVs, computers.  If you can buy it, you can likely insure it.  And if you own it and can’t afford to replace it, you likely need to insure it.

Are you as protected as you need to be?  You never know when life is going to take a left turn.