Deception comes in many different forms that are believe to help us, to make ourselves feel better, because it is the easy way out but in all true honesty it just hurts us, destroy relationships, and is worse then just telling the truth in the first place. Many people lie because it seems as though its easier to get away with rather then seeking the truth. There are many types of lies,we have lies(falsification), equivocation,concealment,exaggeration, and minimization.
The first lie is usually done by someone at least once a day with out you really even knowing. This lie is called falsification with is when you tell a little white lie.For example, a boy asks a girl for her number but the girl gives him the wrong number because he is ugly. Instead of hurting his feeling she just lies about her phone number so that their will not be any altercation.
The second type of lie is Equivocation also known as evasion is a lie usually done between friends. they tell lies to each other so that no ones feelings will get hurt. This actually happened to me. I wanted to experiment with my hair. I wasn’t to sure what I wanted. So I suggested to my best friend that I wanted to dye my hair with a grey ombre. She looked at me for the longest, while I waited for an answer. She slightly smiled at me, and said “go for it” but I knew she did not want me to get it so I just started giving her other options. Since she saw that I really liked the idea she did not discourage me from the idea she just went along with it so that my feelings would not be hurt.
The third type of lie is concealment. In my opinion this is the most popular and useful lie done by everyone. Concealment is when you tell the truth but not the whole truth. Many people claim that I did not want to tell you everything but I told you the most important part that you needed to know. I would like to think of this as the babysitting lie. You told me what you thought I could handle but still lied to me because it was not the full truth.
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The fourth type of lie is the exaggeration, this is when the lie is an overstatement. In this video it shows humorous statements people make daily but even though its mainly lies we know that they are exaggerating but it is figurative speeches on how we feel. These are more lies that people usually do not get offended by so lying is not always a bad thing even though you should not do it.
The last type of lie is minimization which is the understatement lie. this lie is mainly done by children. This is when you make someone commit an action but they only did it because you did it. When you get caught by the adult you make the person take the blame for both of you guys action.
Now that we have covered the many types of lies that occur, I will now tell you now why these lies come about. People lie for many reasons and these reasons are for self-focus motives, partner-focused motives, and relationship focused motives. These three motives prove to us why we feel the need that it is ok to lie to others and these three motives are build on some sort of relationship that we have with others in order to feel the pressure of lying.
In a self- focus motive, people lie because it retains the privacy and saving myself from exposing to much information that we feel should not be exposed. When it comes to partner-focused it is more altruistic lies which is little white lies so it is more lies based on protecting the truth. Lastly, are the relationship focused lies, these lies are obtained between people who are dating but the lies consist based on protecting each other. These lies help to not cause problems in the relationship or keep secrets that they know will eventually cause problems if the other found out the truth.