Various movies and videos were made for teenagers even adult to teach or guide them how to get a girlfriend in life.  Many may wonder, how important is it to have a girlfriend in life? Many people live by themselves and seem to have a perfect life without the other half bothering them. So does a relationship helps you? Is it essential for a person’s life? Does it effect your healthy status?

When we look back into history, it is rare to see people who live in the pre-modernization era do not have a spouse. In those days, reproduction for the family is one of the major goal of life. Once a person reach certain age, they had to find a spouse and marry in order to reproduce offsprings for the family. In ancient China, reproducing offspring for the family is extremely crucial for a male. If a male is not able to find a spouse, the family would even force him to marry someone who he had never met before. “a three unfilial , without issue, ” saying that many of unfilial conduct, but no children, Nobody inherited status, family name, this is the most serious matter.” Argued the great philosopher and the follower of Confucius, Mengzi. Even in modern China, a middle age male without a girlfriend or had never been in a relationship before is bizarre to the society.

These historical and social phenomenon does not directly support the idea of having a girlfriend could help you get a better health status, but it does indicate that there are some form of relations underneath it. According to a study conducted in 1997, being in a relationship could influence your body psychologically and physically. Being in a relationship does make other feel better than being alone. It does offer some shelter and to prevent us from the busy world these days. Other study also pointed out that being in a relation could help you calm your emotion well, function better in society and making one more responsible for himself and the other half.  Relationship even keeps people more diligent while working.

Body chemistry plays an important role while in a relationship. While people are in a relationship, dopamine is released to keep couples feel related and enthusiastic about their relationship. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter in the brain that dealt with pleasure. It is released while a person is gambling, smoking, taking drugs or under other kind of situation. A lack of dopamine in the body leads to anxiety and trouble sleeping. While we release dopamine when in love, we also release the stress from our body, therefore creating a good mood for us and help us with better rest, even more energy in life.

While having intercourse with the partner, oxytocin is released from brain. This chemical helps bond the couples and could also help relieving stress. The study of oxytocin also pointed out that it is closely related to “sexual and maternal behavior, aggression, social memory and attachment.” A lack of oxytocin could lead to a person’s aggression in social behavior.   This could also relate to the criminology point of view (Walsh, Anthony. “Chapter 7, The differential association theory, .” Criminology: The Essentials. Los Angeles: SAGE Publications, 2012. N. pag. Print.). While having little interact and gaining little positive feedback from the relationship one currently have, they are more prone to show aggression and even the intention to commit their delinquent behaviors. It may sounds extreme but being in a relation could help prevent some issues among certain groups.

Relationship may seem tiring for some because they would have to change and work very hard in order to achieve their ideal partner, sometimes even being in a relationship may not seem so well since conflict will eventually appear and break the relationship. However, please keep in mind that a good relationship does not hurt, instead it helps.