A phobia is defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation in which the sufferer commits to great lengths in avoiding, typically disproportional to the actual danger posed, often being recognized as irrational. In the event the phobia cannot be avoided entirely, the sufferer will endure the situation or object with marked distress and significant interference in social or occupational activities.
I never knew when my fear of heights started. One of the first things I remember about being afraid of heights was when I was a little kid was being too afraid to climb up the slide ladder in preschool because I thought it was too high up. My friends kept waiting for me to come down but I must have walked up and down that ladder 10 different times because if I stayed up there for longer than 20 seconds, I would probably cry. And boy, did I cry a lot from being scared. I don’t know how it started, but I know I would have never started thinking about why I was so scared of heights until my senior year of high school, when a 20-some year old teaching assistant asked me, “So would you say you are afraid of heights, or afraid of falling?” I was dead silent. I honestly didn’t know. I knew that when I got to a certain height, I would start to panic. When we talked about how sometimes phobias are created by a certain traumatic event in our early life stages, I called up my dad and asked him why I became afraid of heights, or possibly even falling. After getting me to believe that he pushed me out of a window when I was a toddler (which may sound funny but to a kid with this kind of fear it was a sick, cruel, joke), he told me that he couldn’t remember any specific time when I first showed signs of acrophobia (yeah, I just looked that up). I thought about it for a while; I went back to my earliest memories of rollercoasters, ziplines, rock-climbing walls, anything you could think of higher than 6 feet. Yes, I said 6 feet. And if you, reading this, were hoping for me to finally say why I am acrophobic, guess what, you’re not going to. You can call it a cop out if you want to, but the honest to god truth is that this fear of mine cannot be explained. It’s been with me my entire life just like any other thing I’ve kept close to me. It doesn’t make me a psycho or anything; I can still stand on a stool to reach a bowl on the top shelf for my mom. I have no idea when or why this started, and to be perfectly honest, maybe I’d rather not know. My dad freaked me out the ol’ push your kid out the window gaff, I’m a little worried about how I would react if it were something worse. Who knows, who cares. Just as long as I have my sweet two feet on the ground, I’m going to be a happy camper.